"I loved your movie clip about your sons. I think that every judge, lawyer, minister, whoever gives advice to parents who are splitting up, should be required to watch that clip before they take the first step in divorce, and continue to watch it on a weekly basis during and after the divorce. Maybe it will sink in that it is the parents divorcing not the kids. Sorry to hear about your loss, it is the greatest loss I can imagine. Hope you can hook up with your kids again one day. Keep putting things like that on the internet and I'm sure your kids will find it and know how much you love them. My daughter is divorced and raising her kids on her own, but even though the father isn't perfect he is still in their lives."
B. Dupont, Illinois
Helping Families Devastated by
"Parental Alienation"
If you're reading these words, you are probably experiencing the indescribable pain of being alienated from children that you love deeply. I am so sorry that both you and your children have been subjected to such a brutal form of abuse.
Some of you may not even be familiar with the term "parental alienation", or the tactics used to achieve such an abusive goal.
"Parental Alienation Syndrome is the process of manipulating the child to internally transform their view of the other parent from being an object of love into being an object of hate."
J. Michael Bone Ph.D
This site exists, to help families like yours obtain all of the resources available, to deal with every aspect of Parental Alienation's deadly poison.
Please check this site frequently for the most current information and developments on this topic. We will make every effort to bring you the latest pertinent psychological, medical, and legal findings, along with tools to help, as they become available. You are not alone in this battle or your pain…
My wife & I are just two of many who will stand beside you to help you keep, or win back, the love and respect of your children. I am a loving and capable father that has been separated from my sons since February of 1999. My boys were ages 4 and 7 at the time they were taken from me.
Please watch the following short video to see what Parental Alienation is, and how it can be used to destroy families and children. Afterward, you will learn ways to combat this devastating form of child abuse. Please play the video now.
Depending on your circumstances, you are probably grief-stricken, confused and angry. You may have lost a child after a divorce when your ex-spouse relocated to another state or country with your children (with or without the court's permission).
You may also have an ex-spouse that has intentionally and aggressively embarked on an "Alienation" campaign to remove you completely from your children's lives. You probably never even conceived that someone could be so vicious. If I have described you and your situation in the lines above, no explanation is necessary of how devastating and life-changing losing a relationship with a child you love can be.
If you have not experienced being torn from children you love by Parental Alienation, then no explanation could even come close to describing the utter hopelessness and pain that children and parents who are separated from each other go through. "Sometimes the only way you know you're alive is the pain…"
Regardless of the reason you arrived at this site I want to assure you of several things:
- Keeping Families Connected is committed to providing you with resources and strategies to help you deal with (and heal from) Parental Alienation.
- We will help, encourage and guide you with tools, resources and real life examples of how to best accomplish this goal for your specific situation.
- We will also provide you with resources to deal with personal issues that are common to being separated from your children such as: grief, anger, etc.
- We will constantly encourage you to take the higher road. You must not give in to anger and bitterness even if someone has committed the great evil of "PARENTAL ALIENATION" against both you and your children. If you retaliate with the same tactics, you become no better than the original perpetrators themselves! That is not to imply that you should just remain passive and become a doormat either. But being the "healthy and responsible" parent takes work and great self-restraint at times.
Doing what is best for our children is much more than words. Many alienators swear that what they are doing is to "protect" the children from an abusive or neglectful ex-spouse. In realty, it's just a way to hurt, control and manipulate their ex and brainwash their children to "love" them and "hate" the other parent.
"Alienators do not fit the stereotype of the deficient and ill-equipment parent. Instead, these parents are generally articulate, resourceful, and competent in all other aspects of their lives – except in the realm of parenting. In fact, these individuals might easily be mistaken for ideal parents, except to the properly informed, because they profess love and concern for their children. What sets these individuals apart from other dysfunctional parents is their overwhelming commitment to meeting their own needs first. In doing so, they destroy the relationship their children have with the other parent – at whatever cost.”
Dr. Reena Sommer
"Parental Alienation is about parents who place their own selfish needs above those of their defenseless children and in doing so, they deny them their right to love and be loved by both parents.” Dr. Reena Sommer
The resources on this site address the following:
Learn how to identify, understand and combat the tactics and effects of PA. Find help for healing children and parents affected by this abuse. An extensive list of tools and resources are available. Go to our "Parental Alienation" tab for more information on this topic.
Learn principles to make the best of a tragic situation, and keep your children and yourself from being destroyed in the process. We have resources that deal with the legal, parenting, emotional and other practical issues that are a part of the divorce process. Go to our "Links" tab for more information.
Uncover the real motives behind this organization before it's too late. Most people are totally unprepared to deal with a legal system that is financially motivated to destroy families. DO NOT take this warning lightly because you think that you have certain inalienable rights in this country. Nothing could be further from the truth!
Go to our "Links" tab to find compassionate and capable legal firms and individuals that can and will help you navigate these shark infested waters.
If you are at the point where you are physically separated from your children, we would highly recommend building a website to communicate with them.
Building a site for your children will allow you to convey your ongoing love and commitment to them. Share your thoughts and feelings about your situation. Post information about important events in your life and theirs. Share your thoughts, feelings and beliefs about life, faith, choosing friends, dating and marriage etc.
We will guide you step by step through the process of building a site. (If you don't have the time or energy to do so, we can do it for you for a nominal fee.) Please review the "Create your web site" tab to learn how.
Help for dealing with the issues and emotions that surround the stress, pain and devastation this type of "battle-zone" can bring into your life.
Find strength, healing, and forgiveness in the darkest of times. Don't just deal with the symptoms and effects of a sinful world, find out where God is in all of this. Is there really a plan? Are you included? Is He really still in control? Is there justice anywhere? How will it all end someday?
Tools to build a lasting and fulfilling marriage. The last thing you want is to end up divorced a second time! Learn from the past and build into the future.
If you thought the first time around was difficult, wait until you try to blend two different families with children. It is hard work at best, but worth the price by far. The more tools you have for this one, the better off everyone in your family will be.
Some of the greatest blessings in our life come from positively impacting the lives of others. Find creative ways to take the pain and heartache you have experienced, and use it to make a difference for other families. A list of suggestions to take positive steps of help to bring hope to others.
Very few people around you understand or believe the things that you share with them about your ex-spouse or the "family court" system. They can't even conceive of the astronomical costs and legal fees associated with "Parental Alienation" tactics.
In fact, most of them don't WANT to believe that our court system could possibly be so cold, corrupt and arrogant. Because if it could happen to you, it could happen to them. And that might also mean facing the truth that our legal system has major flaws that need to be dealt with. Denial is much more comfortable. Besides, it's your children that are pawns in this brutal war not theirs...
Parental Alienation - the Ultimate Hate Crime.
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