Parental Alienation - Keeping Families Connected

My son Christopher committed suicide Nov 13, 2008. He was a victim of Parental Alienation and the resulting depression. PAS is VERY REAL and very lethal. Would that all alienating parents realize this and get help. My prayers are for all the parents and children who are experiencing this hell on earth. Continue to pray that God would open blind eyes, soften hardened hearts, and heal the wounded.

Dean, United States

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I just finished reading your site and I am so thankful to see that I am not alone. Only today did I finally find a name for this heartbreak--parental alienation--and now I am searching for all the information that I can find on it. I will be sending you my story for consideration in your book. Thanks again for such a wonderful site.

Warm Regards,
Ruth-Ann, United States

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I had seen your video on you tube before.Today I seen that you had a web site.I wish I had done this before,but am grateful to have found it now... Every situation is different,but we undoubtedly feel the same anguish...Thank you for helping me with my bitterness.

Eric L. (address not disclosed)

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This is SUPERB and should be shown on national TV, in every police station, every school and every court in the land.

KCAJ, United Kingdom

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I can't thank you enough. I'm slowly finding out why my daughter doesn't want to see me anymore; A loving,caring father who was always there-teaching, learning, imagining, creating.I thought I was in pain-I can't imagine what she's going through. Every lawyer, judge, and mediator involved in family court should see this.Best wishes to you and your future..and most of all to your children. All the children. May just one alienating parent see this and recognize and have the courage to change .

Lam A., United States

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Praise God that you have put together an amazingly loving video to bring light to this tragedy our country is facing. I will pray for your family, and others going through similar situations. Your boys will grow up knowing that they are loved by their father because you are fighting to show it. No one is perfect, and my family went through a breakup, but even while my children's father was not with us, I refused to taint their love for him or allow anyone to speak ill of him around our children. We are now married and have three children who are absolutely confident in the love they have from both their mother and father-and I thank God for the strength he gave me during that time so that I did not inadvertently destroy their security in that love. I pray that many people see this video and reflect on their lives and others around and put the children's well being first-after all, what does it hurt for your children to have the love of their entire family?

Jennifer B., Culpeper, VA

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I just wanted to let you know that mothers are at the other end of alienation. My ex husband alienated our children from me all the way from Alabama, I live in Indiana. 2 custody battles later, I lost physical custody of our children. I lost my children emotionally much earlier. The word must get out, if I had known and understood what was going on with my children sooner I could have helped them. So many professionals do not know of PAS. My children loved me and then they learned to hate me and I was the custodial parent. One thing I do know is I was and am a great mom. I love my children more than then words can express. My children were robbed of a loving mom and aunts and uncles, grandparents etc. If I could lose my children any one can. Any one. I believe that parental alienation should be punishable like a crime. Then maybe it would STOP. I also know that the children truly suffer the most. Since that is the case and I know how difficult this is for me to handle, how are they coping????

Barbara S., Indiana

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Hi, your video made me cry, you are lucky that you have some images to remind you of your children, I have none, I totally agree with your words and please know that you have support, even if from afar, in prayer and love

Alan, Birmingham, United Kingdom

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"I loved the clip on your site. My parents were divorced when I was very little. It was a horrible situation. My mom constantly cut my dad down to me and tried using visitations as a form of manipulation. I choose to live with my dad when I turned 12. Because I told the judge...there was not anything that my mom could do...except to try to make me feel guilty. It was a rough time.

It's really sad when parents attempt to hurt the other parent with the kids. It does hurt the parent...but it really hurts the child the most. It has to be one of the most selfish choices that a parent could make. I couldn't imagine keeping my children from my husband. Kids need both of their parents.

The Lord has brought me a lot of healing from all of the childhood scars. Here is a verse that really helped me..."When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me." Ps. 27:10

I really enjoyed your site that you made for your boys. I know that you are separated from you boys against your will...but know that while you are apart, the Lord will take care of them."


God Bless you both!
Dawn M., Ohio

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Good Morning! I happened across your website. I'm so glad I did because I realize that I do a bit of parent bashing. The point about teaching a child to hate part of themselves hit me, making me realize I need to very careful about anything negative I say about their father/any disagreements.

As a Christian, this turmoil has been the most difficult thing in my life. A Williamson County, Texas female judge (name deleted to protect Sandra) gave primary custody of our 4 youngest children (all daughters) to my ex husband. I'm squeaky clean, and there was no legitimate reason to change primary residence to him. The judge hates me and it doesn't matter that the girls all want to live with me, or that, after they went to live with him, one started shoplifting and was caught with drugs, 2 were caught by police wandering around at 3 a.m., 1 has been expelled from her school, all their grades are slipping, and the very youngest who is 10 is getting very depressed.

It is very difficult to just sit here and wait for the Lord to work things out. I have an attorney who said he will help me for free, but after he did attempt to help me once, the judge treated him with total disrespect in the courtroom. After that he told me that it is an uphill battle, because "She (the judge) hates you, and now she despises me because I'm helping you."

You are absolutely right when you say that the system is broken. It needs to be fixed and not in 5 years but right now before more children suffer.

Sincerely,
Sandra, Austin, Texas

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I’m pleased to report that I was recently contacted by a site visitor who designs, hosts and updates personal websites that help alienated parents send positive messages to their alienated children. A personal website not only prevents alienating parents from blocking your access, but let’s face it — our children are more familiar with the web than their local post office....

Mike Jeffries
Author - A Family's Heartbreak
http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com

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hi I am an Adult Survivor of Parental Alienation Syndrome & a Lost Father. this is very real very painful...its killing me.

Juniper, United States

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I recently contacted Focus on the Family and found that they have no policy statement whatsoever on PA. I have asked that they consider having one and they are taking it under consideration. People like you and I are witnesses to the social destruction that PA brings. We must be strong and consistent in our efforts to expose this social trauma for what it really is. I want you to know that I understand and feel your pain. It is therapeutic for me to know that others like you have experienced what I have experienced and even though you feel isolated in a great way, you are not alone. You have so much to offer the world from the pain that you have felt for your children. PA is evil in our society and we need to be diligent in exposing it for what it really is, "unhealthy assertion of power and control of one parent over the other through the abuse of affections of their children."

Thank you my friend
Chuck D., Tualatin, OR

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I wish I could've shown my mom this! I hope that you can be with your children someday soon, I'm sure they really miss you despite what they've been taught to believe.

R.K. Harty, Kokomo, Slovenia

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This an amazing, but very sad insight into today's society. My heart goes out to you and any other parents sharing our painful existence. I have not seen my three darling children for a year, i have missed first words, first school days, birthdays, and Christmas. I delivered each one in turn and enjoyed the most beautiful bond. Sadly, i have been failed by the court system. please listen to my song : alan sawyer missing my babies. good luck my friend.

Alan S., United Kingdom

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"I loved your movie clip about your sons. I think that every judge, lawyer, minister, whoever gives advice to parents who are splitting up, should be required to watch that clip before they take the first step in divorce, and continue to watch it on a weekly basis during and after the divorce. Maybe it will sink in that it is the parents divorcing not the kids. Sorry to hear about your loss, it is the greatest loss I can imagine. Hope you can hook up with your kids again one day. Keep putting things like that on the internet and I'm sure your kids will find it and know how much you love them. My daughter is divorced and raising her kids on her own, but even though the father isn't perfect he is still in their lives.

I do understand some of the heartache that you went through because my sister had her grandparents rights removed after her daughter died in an accident for one of her grandchildren. That was before the state of Illinois reversed the Grandparents Rights Act. She now get to see him often. Actually the very persons that tried to keep her from him are now trying to push him on her more than she is able to do."

Good luck with your ministry,
B. Dupont, Illinois

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I think it is also amazing the organization that you set up to help families torn from their children. If there were more people like you out there, that kind of sadness would barely exist in this crazy time we live in. This organization should be supported by anyone and everyone for the sake of the children. I know I would be at a loss if something happened and I had my four babies taken away from me. I don't ever want to endure it to understand it fully, but you fully have my support no matter what.

I have to look up to you both with the journey that this life has brought you. To stick it out together through some of the toughest times is something you two need to be very proud of. Not everyone can do or handle what you have...they usually fall apart.

Lots of hugs to both of you for what you are doing,
Linda (& Rich, too), Ringgold, GA

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This video was so beautiful. I too have not seen my 5 boys in 4 years due to my ex's control to keep them from me. The first year we did not know where they were since he hide them and told them I was dead. Now I am fighting the courts in Utah to see them...my ex has money and false accusations to keep me away. I pray everyday that you, and people like me will get our children home soon. Thank you for doing this video and your website.You are doing a great work on getting the word out!!!

Lisa, United States

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Why do adults do this to children? This is so sad children should never be caught in between choosing. I was raised by my Mom and she refused to put us through that and in spite of the pressure from people around her we had access to both parents.

Harley, Canada

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I'm a mother experiencing this as well. Please take heart that it's not just Dads who suffer this. The decision of custodial parent should stand with truth, ability and love and most importantly the parent who has the child's best interest at heart. Man or woman, we deserve to be with our children and our children should not be punished for loving us. I'm so sorry to all of you who have to deal with this.

Rachel , United States

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Your video could not be more exact. I found out about PAS while searching alienation on the web when I started to notice changes in my children. I've tried everything to stop the progression to no avail. Now they barely speak to me-won't eat anything I make or buy. Any gift is shoved in a corner or gone. And nobody in the system helps or listens. I am looked at as the crazy one. But your perseverance inspires me-TY.

The mom now called "she" , United States

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since the day i was born my ex-mother forbid me too see my fathers side uncles aunts grandparents and cousins after the deforce my dad was on that list too today i haven't spoken with her for about 8 years and ill probably never forgive her she will probably die alone because i sure wont come. whatever evil parent reads this don’t be so stupid.

GF, Netherlands

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I truly believe everyone that sees this video will be in tears. there is fathers out there that don't want anything to do with their biological children and here you have a man (a real father) that wants to be with his kids and someone wants to take that away. wow, when people want to hurt you, they know exactly where to hit you and knows it will hurt the most. Your Children. Them are some VERY LUCKY boys to have a dad like you. There are plenty of kids out here that would love a father like you. i have 2 boys of my own. Corbit just turned one year this past august and Lonnie will be four years next month. They are crazy about their daddy and i wouldn't ever do this to him. He's just as crazy about them as they are him. Does your ex wife ever think about if the tables were turned and how she would feel? I wish you all the luck with this! and hope you will be reunited with your babies.

BCR, United States

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Praise God that you have put together an amazingly loving video to bring light to this tragedy our country is facing. I will pray for your family, and others going through similar situations. Your boys will grow up knowing that they are loved by their father because you are fighting to show it. No one is perfect, and my family went through a breakup, but even while my children's father was not with us, I refused to taint their love for him or allow anyone to speak ill of him around our children. We are now married and have three children who are absolutely confident in the love they have from both their mother and father-and I thank God for the strength he gave me during that time so that I did not inadvertently destroy their security in that love. I pray that many people see this video and reflect on their lives and others around and put the children's well being first-after all, what does it hurt for your children to have the love of their entire family?

Jennifer B., Virginia

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I can not understand why mothers want to do this to their children and I believe this will come back to hunt them.I can see you love your children and one day they will find you. Keep fighting for your children they have a right to know you.

A mother, Netherlands

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Hang in there. I can relate because I never wanted to be here as a child and as an Adult going through this pain with my son, I wish I wasn't here. Last year he's father kept him away from me for 9 months..no communication, no hearing his voice. His father just knew that would break me and send me away. I began doing things to help me cope - art and talked to a therapist on a regular. Yes, it would have killed me if I didn't try to help myself.

Sadly, my son's father and I grew up together and his mom was/IS very dominant. She destroyed his relationship with his father so I believe, he thinks this is normal behavior. I can't allow his issues to continue to be mine. It stopped when I began viewing this blog.

Stay strong, it has to get better one day. Thank you :-)

M.H., United States

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Very moving video - well done. Until the incentives for destroying the nuclear family are removed, along with the corrupt politicians and elite who put them in place, then generations of children will be increasingly destroyed by the rulers agenda. Return fathers as head of the nuclear family. Automatic mother custody must be stopped.

The Father for Justice, England

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Thank you for posting such a touching video. My boyfriend forwarded this to me and I watched it as long as I could before crying. He is the father of 3 boys with his ex-wife that he loves dearly. His time spent with them has decreased over the last 2 years to where he only sees them once or twice a week for only a few hours at a time. His ex uses any angle to her advantage to keep them away. Courts do not want to listen. My apologies to you for having to be affected by your ex's actions...

P.C., United States

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I thank my mother for not alienating me from my dad,even though he was an alcoholic and a difficult person to live with, he still was my dad, she recognized that and understood that i loved him no matter what , she never spoke badly about him.

Kris, Netherlands

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This video brought tears to my eyes. Yes, the courts are corrupted and we are destroying our society with the ambient violence so many families endure by the professional elite who use their power and knowledge to extort for financial gain.

CR, Canada

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I am a resident parent and my son's father continuously tries to turn him against me and my husband by lying to the child and constantly denigrating me. Supporters of the PAS Theory constantly assert that only non resident parents can be a victim of PAS - this is not the case.

Mom, United States

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I'm in the same situation, in Japan. I'm thinking of writing a book called "You're voodoo dolls are my wingless angels". Mine are daughters. I have great sympathy and empathy for you. Children should not be innocent victims of spite. I wish you all the luck in the world. Love and Peace.

A father from Japan

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Parental Alienation is real. I have not seen my sons since September 1993. I miss them so much and I know they love me but are unable to express it. They are the victims, I am so sad. :-( Love and Prayers,

Patty L., Mullica, New Jersey

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My prayers are with this father and the children! I am a victim of parental alienation as well even being a woman I was a victim of the other family playing manipulative games and a lot of money it is sad because the children are the ultimate victims.

Daniela V., Flint, Michigan

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Two parents are better than one, NO one has the right to play God!!

Mirin and Anya's Dad, Scotland

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Its very difficult to watch for me. This is in progress for me as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and to all Fathers and Mothers for that matter, that are living this situation from EVIL ex-wives, husbands and the like. Something must be done about our court systems who refuse to believe in this form of abuse. Dads,Moms don't give up!!!

Kuwait

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too many brainwashed child-head.. too many child won't love them self for that.. how cruel and ignorant can be some people making that to their children, bringing them out of truth.. in a land of chaos and desolation, isolation.. i pray for all those children hoping they will discover the truth and take their life back as it was, thanks for the video

(PadreSeparato) Italy

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I'm so sorry to hear that a mother could do this to her own children. I believe Parental Alienation is far worse than anybody would of ever thought. I am a Grandmother that has been alienated from my 3 Grandson's for no reason other than spite. Grandparent's have no rights when it comes to their own grandchild. It interferes with a parents right to raise their own child. Right or wrong. I went to court and I was denied rights to visit my Grandson's. How can this happen?

Kelly, Englewood, CA

One of the most helpful sites re parental alienation is: Keeping Families Connected. This site has a wealth of information including suggested texts in many areas (from the spiritual to the practical) and other links with helpful information. The owners of this site will help you, the alienated target parent, create your own web site so that your children will hopefully find you and understand that your love for them is never ending.

Gene C. Coleman's Family Law Centre
Toronto, Ontario
http://4famlaw.com

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Thank you for being on the Divorced Fathers Network Radio Program. I received great feed back about the the show. Keep up the great work.

Steve Ashley - Divorced Fathers Network
http://www.divorcedfathers.com

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Hi Rick and Barb,
I am so very sorry for your loss...it is indeed a horrific problem that permeates our whole society. I think that you are offering a very valuable service.

Jayne A. Major, Ph.D.
Breakthrough Parenting Services, Inc.
www.breakthroughparentingservices.org

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Thanks for your email and the video and congratulations on your good work. We will keep your information on file and disseminate it to interested parties when appropriate.

We wish you the best!
Foundation for Grand parenting
www.grandparenting.org

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GENERATION CD applauds Keeping Families Connected for producing this video. We stand strong with you!

We are a group of Midwest children and families seeking to stop Malicious Moms / Parental Alienation / Indoctrination / Brainwashing /etc. We referenced your site and video on our website to send people your way. Hope that is okay with you. God Bless You in your work.

THE GENERATION CD TEAM
Children of Divorce...working for Children of Divorce
http://maliciousmom.blogspot.com

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Today I visited your site and I really like it. I am interested in your site because it is relevant and would make a good complement to my existing content. I have already added your web site link to my site. If you are an alienated target parent, you must visit this site today.

Beta Paternity - DNA Laboratory
http://www.betagenetics.com

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As another divorced father, I know the pain, loss and ultimate damage PA does to the parent and the children. I can only hope your story and that of so many more helps shape future policy and education so that this emotionally abusive crime can be prevented, and dealt with appropriately. Added your vid to my Parenting Campaign VLOG. Wishing you the best of luck now and in the future. Keep up the fight, as only a good parent would.

DT, United Kingdom

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I know that I'm going to be forwarding this video to a lot of persons. This is an issue that has burdened more people's lives than they realize. When adults carry the play ground politics from there to their children's lives, what chance do children have to better themselves when this is what parents leave with them as an example to follow for the rest of their lives? Thank you God for this teaching tool.

Darren N., Kingston, Ontario

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Hello my name is Traclyn and I recently watched your ultimate hate crime video. I also have a son named Nicholas and I among others cried as we watched your video as we are also the "targeted Parents" of these people we once loved and trusted only to find out later that they would ruin our worlds by taking our children and destroying them and unfortunately there is very little we can do for the children unless you spend a lot of time researching and becoming knowledgeable in this thing they call "parental Alienation". I wont stop not ever until my little boy is back home where he truly is loved and his father seeks the help he needs. Once he understands and knows that our little boy needs both parents healthy than I know he might be on the right track to recovery. Its a very sad thing for our children to have to be put through.

I am needing to ask you if I could have a copy of your video as I plan to use it to educate the court system where I live and I possibly am considering spending a great deal of time involved educating everyone to stop this child abuse and let our children be free of another parents anger towards a sick individual who needs to seek some form of therapy. Your video has already been of help to me as I printed out the comments on paper and shared them with a domestic violence class that a lady I know teaches for children that she supervises from the courts here where I live.

Thank you for letting me be apart of your "parental Alienation" journey to let America know just what we have going on here that needs to be stopped and with people just like you and myself we will find a cure for this horrible disease that is putting our children's life in jeopardy everyday. I commend you and you have my utmost respect on what a great job you did on your video , it really is a tear jerker but its all very much a reality and the judges need to know that this is some serious s--t here and I will never stop until I know the children of our world our safe and with loving parents or parent. Thank you and I will keep your children and you in my prayers always.

Traclyn, California

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You are a brave man; and even though justice was not served in the Courts,the day will indeed come when your children will know the truth. I am living this intense pain now w/my brother, and it is ever so painful. Your video is a beautiful expression of your love for your boys. I cried while I watched it.

You said exactly what he tells me as he cries about it, that this is all he thinks about..day & night. I know what I am going through, so I can only imagine his heart; and yours as well! What can I do, as a sister to help him? I am afraid of what happens after this. His Ex has taken everything from him, & now he just wants to flee the Country. She slowly pryed away the little fingers clutched onto my brother.I know his pain will never go away. How can I help him?

My heart is with you.

Blessings,
SSM Texas

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I watched this video a couple of times. It was reminder of my child hood dealing with PA myself. This movie is the true story of how a childs innocence is kidnapped from them and how love is turned to rage and misplaced anger because of someone else's issues. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I did return to my mom and some day your sons will return as well.

Chrissy, United States

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Your video is all too familiar to me and presents a scenario much too common. While it brings up much sadness it also enrages me. I am fortunate to see my son more often than many but it doesn't change the fact that he is constantly harmed by his mother's hatred and anger. I pray for you, you are a great dad, and I pray for your beautiful children. this country needs to wake up.

Hiding behind what is best for the child is common in Family Court. The entire system pretends to forward that idea but it is not what they're about. The results are tragic because the lie allows the courts to strip loving parents of the right to participate in the lives of their children.

Paul G., Franklinville, NY

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Reading your website was a story that I have heard. It happened with my husband. I sat by his side and watched as she did what she said she was going to do. His ex wife told him she knew how to get him out of his children's lives and she was going to do it. She succeeded. His children did not see him for 6 years. The next time his children saw him was 2 years ago at his funeral. My husband died at age 41 unexpectedly from a heart attack.

There are so many details into this story but I want the world to know this is real. It causes so much suffering. My step children will never know their father. He was a kind, gentle hearted beautiful person and a wonderful loving father. He was not portrayed that way in court. They will never , ever get to know that. Their mother took that away from them.

I guess I wanted to tell part of his story. You truly never know what may happen.

Sandra C., United States

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Its just regrettable that PAS is not yet recognized as an official syndrome. Its definitely destroying millions of families around the world. And to any courts that "believes in joint parenting", "welfare of the child comes first", "the child needs both parents", "blah blah blah", just save the talking and start doing something constructive to prove you guys mean serious business.

Else I can also say I will stand up for animal rights this moment & start torturing animals the next moment.

So many children have already grown up to testify being alienated from their targeted parents since they were young,so aren't those already proof that PAS had been existing for decades & affecting millions of people? What other proof do they need? I can't believe no action is taken to target this issue head-on.

Imagine its like AIDS is killing people but the authority refuses to acknowledge it or educate the public about it, & allows it to keep destroying more people all over the world!

YKM, Singapore

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I was there with you and even though my children do not live with me now I had almost 4 years with them living with me to see the real me. They are still influenced by their Mom but I did my best to protect them when they lived with me. My children are older now and the grip their Mom wishes she had on them is just not there any more. It was not easy and I fought and won several battles in court. I fell your pain and pray that your children will see one day just how much you love them. God Bless

Spary (KyVideoGuy), United States

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I absolutely love your video! God bless you and your children. They are lucky to have a father like you. Never ever give up the battle for your children! One day they will know the truth! My prayers are with you!

M. Hutchinson, United States

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I have tried to be part of my two young daughters lives. Have never done anything wrong. The only thing I am guilty of is being a loving father who cares for his girls beyond any imagination. However, their mother has done everything from threatening to kill them to having people call my phone and threaten to kill me for wanting to spend time with my children. This is sick and criminal...I have declared her a terrorist. She terrorizes my life. Look up the definition of terrorist. She fits it!

Ryan, United States

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Your video contains a very powerful message and highlights clearly the stages of alienation which cause huge damage to the emotional and psychological health and wellbeing of the children involved. Many children never recover from the pain, confusion and anger they suffer after being turned against one of their parents, or the loss they feel at that living bereavement. Their poor lives are unbalanced and they, and society suffer as a result of the resident parents abuse of the child.

All allegations of abuse of any type made within family court should be dealt with by criminal courts not secret family courts. False allegations and perjury within family court should be made criminal offences, dealt with by criminal courts and punished firmly to ensure the children truly are put first. Adults should learn to be grown ups and stop damaging their children to serve their own best interests.

Tracey, United Kingdom

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I am behind you 110%...I'm praying for the day that all of our voices will be heard. It is so sad that the rest of the world is in the dark as we fight a secret war in our own back yards! Although I've won my daughter back, I'm never going to give up my fight to expose these people as well as tell the world what they do to children for the sake of money.
Respectfully,

Tom, United States

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I have 3 children that I fought to have joint custody of. After the mother delayed the proceedings time and again (3yrs); I finally got my day in court and won. However, the children's mother became more determined and unleashed her rage on the children because my children chose to be with both parents. She never stops berating the father and using emotional abuse on them for wanting to be with their father...one of my children is autistic and it really began to take a toll on his development.

In order to free my children from her endless wrath and emotional abuse, I relinquished my rights to custody for their sake and piece of mind...It is very painful to experience alienation; it never stops...

Stewart, Winnipeg, Manitoba

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There really is no comment I can make because the video perfectly exemplifies the pain and corrosiveness that these children are subject to. Somehow in the aftermath of the "women's liberation" movement women were allowed to trample on the rights of men and turn them into the second class citizens that they themselves no longer wanted to become. This is wrong... clearly. Why can't people be focused on "human rights" so that the tables are not turned on men and children???

A. Kaufman, United States

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"Oh my I can't stop crying. I am a mother whose children were alienated from me by their father. After a 4 year battle across 3000 miles we got custody last September. The children are in counseling and doing well. I feel your pain NEVER GIVE UP. I thank you for your very moving video

You are absolutely right regarding people with their heads in the sand. My personal story was made more difficult due to the fact that my girls were in England (I am a British National) and I was here in the States. It is very difficult to enforce any court orders when they are made 3000 miles away.
I have also started a yahoo group for Mother's affected by PAS. It is so difficult for Mothers as they have to get passed the Judgment of people who think they must be really bad Mother's to lose their children. I only started this yesterday so it will probably take some time. If any mother's contact you would you be so kind to direct them to my yahoo group, momsagainstpas. The picture on the page is actually of my daughters, I think it speaks volumes, Please feel free to use it if you want.

I pray for you and your boys. Keep it together and never give up, your boys need you."

kind regards,
Heather S., West Virginia

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I have two children. A daughter and a son. My ex-husband has not spoken with nor contacted our daughter for six years. Neither have his parents who live ten minutes away. Our daughter sent her grandparents Christmas cards for three years in a row with no response. Our daughter is now 27. Our son, 24, has had very limited contact with me for the past six years. I missed his college years completely. He is starting law school this coming fall in the same town in which I live. He has started to contact me and we have been going out to dinner occasionally etc.. My question is this; my son makes statements to me that are incorrect. What should I do, should I gently confront my son when he says these things. So far, I haven’t said anything at all. But, it is like his memories have been changed.

Any help you can give me would be very much appreciated.

Sincerely,
Donna

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Dear Rick and Barb;
I came across your website for you and your sons and loved it. My boyfriend is going through the most messy divorce I have ever seen in my entire life. I have always had "The Lord" in my life and it has helped me through 7 years of this. I thank GOD everyday for his strength and love that he has for all of us. I have watched Scott go down on the floor and cry not being able to see his children in 7 years and the system in the United States STINKS. Scott's story is a very long one, his children have changed their last name and not wanted to have anything to do with this man. I can not understand this. You see I am also divorced for 7 years but my ex husband can and always see his daughter. I believe that the children need ALL their parents in their lives to be able to be balanced. Learn about life and how to deal with all the ups and downs.

I would like for you to know since 2001 that Scott was not a religious man he said he was a Christian but really are you? With so much hate for what your ex-wife has done he could not see the light. Finally 7 years and me talking and talking and praying and praying that he would finally come to Jesus. HE DID!!!! I am so proud of him and he does not think of dying any longer he thinks of living, he does not feel like giving up because he said that JESUS SAVES and he does. everyday of our lives he saves he died for our sins and we live.

Thank you Rick and Barb for your website and I hope that things work out for you and your children as I hope and pray that one day maybe in the next 20 years before Scott or I die he will have a chance again with his children.

I am going to show your site to Scott and I hope he too will start a website for him and his children.

Your Friends in Florida,
Gina & Scott

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I have sent this video to my friends, no child should be used as a weapon by any Parent, its the child that feels the hurt the most, I know that only to well.

child lost dad xx, United Kingdom

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Indeed "The Ultimate Hate Crime" Be it the massive amounts of money motivated Lawyers and the so called " wisdom" of Judges who propagate this CRIME via blind ignorance. Lets not forget the key word " Hate" No child should be with an adult who is hateful. Children learn what they are taught, what they live. "Hate" is NOT a value we want to teach the next generation let the innocent heart/mind of a child's. Robbing children of any parent is wrong , Wrong, WRONG!!!!

Shiloh, Canada

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I know the other way around their Father never looked at them again although I tried God know's, From the age of three years and still I don't speak bad about him just to protect my children. My son specially cried himself to sleep and made songs trying to sleep mostly in the beginning later they ask themselves and to me if their Father is not liking them and so on now they want to meet him look for him and I think that's good it must be like that

never speak bad about the parent who is not there

Renee, Netherlands

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Excellent video, tear jerker for sure! I'm in a similar-ish situation, separated by 4,000 miles by a hateful & controlling mother & so-called grandmother. The grandmother is physically and mentally abusive to the children, yet she instilled paranoia in my ex-wife, to the point when my Mother was dying, I couldn't even bring 'our' daughter over to see her - just once.
I haven't held my daughter in nearly 2 years now...

Mathew S., United Kingdom

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I have a hard time containing my emotions when I see your story...maybe because I share a similar fate

O.J., Italy

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What blows me away is that any half thinking cognitive human being recognizes that alienation occurs in the work place but can't accept it in the home....yet this is being disputed??? then it dons on me yes!...disputed by the alienators...God HELP OUR CHILDREN....as for law makers and some health care professionals....shame on YOU!!!!

SN, Canada

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This breaks my heart more than I could imagine. I too am at a loss for words. My husband deals with PAS as well. However, thankfully the situation is hot and cold. Off and on. My heart reaches out to the Mother, but I don't feel her grasp in return. I try so hard to make life grand for us all, but in the end, it HAS to be she that does it too. I pray for all the parents that deal with PAS. This is just too horrible for words. Your story and slide are always going to be in my thoughts.

Patina S., United States

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I have added your site in several places. Thanks for contacting the Equal Justice Foundation.

Charles H. Corry, PhD, F.G.S.A
Equal Justice Foundation
http://ejfi.org