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Parental Alienation - Keeping Families Connected

Resources to identify, battle and recover from the devastating affects of PA & PAS

Resources to Help You Recover From
Parental Alienation and Divorce

Below are some books that will help you on your journey to become the very best man or woman you can be.  Many of them are books that we read on our journey.  We encourage you to take the time to read as many as possible.  The better equipped you are the more successful you will be in dealing with what has happened to you.  Most of these books are available on Amazon.com or CBD.com.  If you purchase any of the books listed below through our link a portion of your purchase will go to helping families affected by Parental Alienation. Click here for a printable version of the list.

Recommended reading is divided into the following sections. If you click on a section below you will be taken to the start of that section of recommended books.

Section #1: Faith & Healing
In my personal opinion, this first group of books deals with the absolute most important aspect of what is going on in your life right now. "Where is God in all of this?"

Some of you may be screaming those words while hot tears are streaming down your cheeks. By now you are probably angry and disillusioned with life itself, and possibly even with The One who created us. All I can tell you is this, in my personal journey "everything that others meant for evil pointed me to a God that loves me deeply and will never leave or forsake me, even when, no, especially when it seems that I am wounded, forgotten and alone. Sometimes the only way you know that you're alive is the pain…"

These books will reveal, or at the very least re-acquaint you with, the God of the universe that loves you and your children. He is not some "feeble well-meaning old man" on a cloud somewhere. Nor is He "impotent or uncaring" about you or your children.

He WANTS you to seek Him in your pain. He loves your children more than you ever could. Find out what His plan is for you and all those "who are called according to His purpose in Christ Jesus". His plan may surprise you, but it will definitely encourage and bring healing to you in the midst of the storm.

When God Doesn't Make Sense Disappointment With God Purpose Driven Life Desire
When God Doesn't
Make Sense

Dr. James Dobson

Disappointment With God
Phillip Yancy
Purpose Driven Life
Rick Warren
Desire
John Eldredge
What's So Amazing About Grace Case for Christ Finding God As Silver Refined
What's So Amazing
About Grace
Philip Yancy

Case for Christ
Lee Strobel
Finding God
Dr. Larry Crabb
As Silver Refined
Kay Arthur
Wild at Heart  Reasons to Believe  God Will Make a Way  Where is God when it hurts
Wild at Heart
John Eldredge 
Reasons We Believe
Nathan Busenitz 
God Will Make a Way
Dr. Henry Cloud &
Dr. John Townsend 

Where is God When it Hurts?
Philip Yancy


If you have any questions about a personal relationship with Jesus Christ - we would love to talk with
you. In our opinion based upon our own life's experience and observing countless others, until you have a relationship with Him, nothing else really matters. He has all of the answers and healing you so desperately need. Please use the above resources to help you become the kind of father, mother or grandparent that your child deserves.

 
Section #2: Parental Alienation - The Ultimate Hate Crime
These books will explain what Parental Alienation is, how it is used, and how to help your children when you encounter it.  A "must have" for anyone experiencing problems with their children, created by Parental Alienation!
       
A Family's Heartbreak Friend of the Court Enemy of the Family Adult Children of Parental Alienation
Divorce Poison
Dr. Richard Warshak
 A Family's Heartbreak: A Parents Introduction to Parental Alienation
Michael Jeffries and
Dr. Joel Davies


Friend of the Court
Enemy of the Family

Carol Rhodes
Adult Children of
Parental Alienation
Dr. Amy Baker
Divorce Causalties Taken Into Custody A Kidnapped Mind Cheated
Divorce Casualties
Dr. Douglas Darnell
Taken Into Custody
Stephen Baskerville
A Kidnapped Mind
Pamela Richardson
Cheated
Ronald E. Smith

Family Court Hell Parental Alienation Syndrome Out of Control Parental Alienation
Family Court Hell
Mark Harris
The Parental Alienation
Syndrome

Dr. Richard Gardner
Out of Control:  Who's Watching Our Child
Protection Agencies

Brenda Scott

Parental Alienation
Dr. L. F. Lowenstein
Elusive Innocense   Courts From Hell - Family InJustice in Canada  I don't want to choose  Children Held Hostage
Elusive Innocense
Survival Guide for the
Falsely Accused

Dean Tong
Courts From Hell - Family
InJustice in Canada

Frank Simons
I don't Want to Choose
How Middle School Kids Can Avoid Choosing One Parent
Over the Other

Dr. Amy Baker

Children Held Hostage
Stanley S. Clawar
Unlawful Flight Support? System Down - DVD Jake's Closet - DVD (E-Book - No image available)Beyond the High Road
(Advise for handling 17
of the most common
Parental Alienation Strategies)
Dr. Amy Baker
Unlawful Flight
A Parental Kidnapping

Glen C. Schulz

Support? System Down
DVD
Jake's Closet
DVD


   
Winner Take All: A Woman
Exposes the Violation of
Men's Rights at the Hands
of Family Law
Molly Murphy
The Parentectomy
A Memoir
Kimber Adams
   
 
Section #3: Children and Divorce
Our children are the innocent victims of our choices and the choices of our ex-spouses.  As parents we need to step up to the plate and help them in the healing process.  The following books are excellent resources that help children work through the tough and even heart- breaking issues of divorce and a "broken" family.
       
It's Okay to Cry Broken: Making Sense After Your Parents Divorce Helping Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way The Switching Hour
It's Okay to Cry: A Parent's
Guide to Helping Children
Through the Losses of Life

H. Norman Wright

Broken: Making Sense of Life After Your Parents Divorce
Tim Baker
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce - The Sandcastles Way
M. Gary Neuman
The Switching Hour:  Kids of Divorce Say Good-bye Again
Evon O. Flesberg
What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced
Helping Children Survive Divorce Helping Children Cope With Divorce Helping Your Kids Deal with Anger, Fear & Sadness
What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced
William L. Coleman
Helping Children Survive Divorce
Dr. Archibald Hart
Helping Children Cope
With Divorce 

Edward Teyber
Helping Your Kids Deal with Anger, Fear and Sadness
H. Norman Wright

Generation EX Hope No Matter What Helping Your Kids Survive Your Divorce Speaking of Divorce 
Generation EX: Adult
Children of Divorce and the Healing of Our Pain
Jen Abbas
Hope No Matter What: Helping Your Children Heal After Divorce
Kim Hill and Lisa Harper
Helping Your Kids Survive Divorce
Thomas Whiteman, PhD
Speaking of Divorce
How to talk with Your Kids
 and Help them Cope

Kent Winchester &
Roberta Beyer  

Fred Stays with Me Never Far Apart Two Homes for Tyler Can Anyone Fix my broken heart
Fred Stays With Me! 
Nancy Coffelt & Tricia Tusa
Never Far Apart
Lieutenant Gary
Two Homes for Tyler
Pamela Kennedy 
Can Anyone Fix My
Broken Heart

June Thomas Crews 

What in the world do you do when your parents divorce With My Mom, With My Dad When Mom and Dad Divorce Stories for Kids in Divorce
What in the World Do You Do
When Your Parents Divorce?

Kent Winchester &
Roberta Beyer 

With My Mom, With My Dad
Maribeth Boelts 
When Mom and Dad
Divorce

Emily Menendez-Aponte 
Stories for Kids in Divorce
Linda Jacobs
Getting a Grip - The Heart of Anger   Split  Now What do I do  Child of Divorce, Child of God
Getting a Grip
The Heart of Anger
Handbook for Teens

Lou Priolo 
Split: A Graphic Reality
Check for Teens Dealing
with Divorce

Marcus Brotherton 
Now What Do I Do?: A
Guide to Help Teenagers
with Their Parent's
Separation or Divorce

Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski

Child of Divorce,
Child of God

Kristine Steakley 
I wonder Divorce Creating A Successful Parenting Plan  
I wonder
(this coloring and activity book
deals with the sensitive subject
of Parental Alienation)
Kimberly Pressley - Herrick
Color Away Pain
Divorce
(this coloring and activity book
deals with the sensitive subject
of Divorce)
Kimberly Pressley - Herrick
Color Away Pain
Creating a Successful Parenting Plan
Dr. Jayne Major
(available on the her website
www.breakthrougparenting.com)
 
       

Section #4: Dealing with your emotions and getting rid of the baggage
Most of the time our emotions serve us well.  Without them it would be impossible to feel love, compassion, mercy and even grief.  But sometimes our emotions become our master, leading us down paths that are fraught with danger and are abusive to those around us. These books can free you from destructive habits and patterns in your life, while helping you set healthy boundaries with those that would harm or take advantage of you and your children.

 
Make Anger Your Ally   The Last Addiction  Boundaries  Emotions
Make Anger Your Ally
Neil Clark Warren, PhD 
The Last Addiction
Sharon Hersh
Boundaries
Dr. Henry Cloud and
Dr. John Townsend


Emotions
Dr. James Dobson
Bondage Breaker   Everyman's Battle  The Control Trap  Getting Through the Tough Stuff
The Bondage Breaker
Neil Anderson 
Everyman's Battle
Stephen Arterburn
The Control Trap
Barbara Sullivan 
Getting Through the
Tough Stuff

Charles Swindoll

Don't let jerks get the best of you   Safe People  Choosing Forgiveness  When You've been Wronged
Don't Let Jerks Get the
Best of You

Dr. Paul Meier 
Safe People
Dr. Henry Cloud &
Dr. John Townsend 


Choosing Forgiveness
Nancy Leigh DeMoss
When You've Been Wronged
Erwin Lutzer
 The Anger Trap  Changes that Heal  Avoiding Stress Fractures  Your Scars are Beautiful to God
The Anger Trap
Dr. Les Carter 
Changes That Heal
Dr. Henry Cloud 
Avoiding Stress
Fractures
Charles Swindoll 
Your Scars are
Beautiful to God

Sharon Jaynes 

Overcoming Emotions that Destroy  Helping Those Who Hurt   A Woman's Guid to Overcoming Depressing  Unmasking Male Depression
Overcoming Emotions
that Destroy
Chip Ingram &
Dr. Becca Johnson

 
Helping Those Who Hurt
H. Norman Wright 
A Woman's Guide to
Overcoming Depression
Archibald Hart, PhD 
Catherine Hart Weber, PhD
Unmasking Male
Depression
Archibald Hart, PhD
Healing Life's Hurts   Surviving the Storms of Life A Woman's Forbidden Emotion   
Healing Life's Hurts
Graham Bretherick 
Surviving the Storms of Life
H. Norman Wright 
A Woman's Forbidden
Emotion

H. Norman Wright & Gary Oliver
 
 
       
Section #5: Healing From the Devastating Effects of Divorce
From our experience dealing with thousands of individuals who have experienced a divorce, most people will tell you that their divorce was one of the most painful and stressful times in their life. Healing from divorce is a process that is often long and uncomfortable but worth every bit of effort you put into the healing process.  In addition to the books below we would recommend that you don't try and go through your divorce alone. Hook up with a DivorceCare group in your area. It's a place where you will find caring people who understand the issues you are facing.
 
When the Vow Breaks   Breaking the Cycle of Divorce Torn Asunder   Broken Heart on Hold
When the Vow Breaks
Joseph Warren Kniskern
Breaking the Cycle of
Divorce
John Trent, Ph.D 
Torn Asunder
Recovering From An Extramarital Affair
Dave Carder  
Broken Heart on Hold
Linda Rooks 
Ne Life After Divorce   Hope for the Separated  Single, Married, Separated Life After Divorced  Growing Through Divorce
New Life After Divorce
Bill Butterworth 
Hope for the Separated
Gary Chapman 
Single, Married, Separated
Life After Divorce

Myles Munroe 
Growing Through Divorce
Jim Smoke
Desperate Housewives   Finding the Right One After Divorce Before You Remarry  Saving Your Second Marriage Before it Starts 
Desperate Wives: Help and
Hope for Women Considering
Separation or Divorce

Brenda Clayton 
Finding the Right One
After Divorce
Edward Tauber &
Jim Smoke 
Before You Remarry
H. Norman Wright 
Saving Your Second Marriage Before it Starts:
 9 Questions to Ask Before (and after) You Remarry

Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott 
 
Section #6: Marriage - don't fall into old patterns with a new spouse
What is the last thing you EVER want to go through again...Another divorce!  Commit to investing the same amount of time and effort to build an awesome marriage with your spouse, as you would to build anything of great and lasting value.  You better have a plan!  A bunch of skills and basic understanding of the opposite sex wouldn't hurt either would it?  This time have fun.

I can tell you this, I thank God everyday for the wife He has given me.  She is much more than I deserve or I could ever have imagined.  There is hope after divorce!
 
Love & Respect   The Five Languages of Love  Tender Warrior  Yes Your Marriage Can be Saved
Love & Respect
Dr. Emerson Eggerich 
The Five Languages
of Love
Gary Chapman 
Tender Warrior
Stu Weber
Yes, Your Marriage Can be Saved: 12 Truths for Rescuing Your Relationship
Joe & Michelle Williams
Staying Close   Marriage from Surviving to Thriving  Divorce Proof Your Marriage  Growing the Marriage of Your Dreams
Staying Close
Denise & Barbara Rainey 
Marriage from Surviving
to Thriving

Charles Swindoll
Divorce Proof Your
Marriage

Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg
Growing the Marriage of
Your Dreams

Max Lucado
Fireproof - DVD   Love Dare  Pressure Proof Your Marriage  Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in your Marriage
Fireproof - DVD
(Fireproof is an action-packed love story about a firefighter, his wife, and a marriage worth rescuing!)

Love Dare 
Stephen Kendrick &
Alex Kendrick
Pressure Proof Your
Marriage
Dennis & Barbara Rainey 
Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in your Marriage
Lee Strobel 
 His Brain, Her Brain Healing the Hurt in Your Marriage   Love for a Lifetime  Love Must Be Tough
His Brain, Her Brain: How
Divinely Designed Differences
Can Strengthen Your Marriage

Dr. Walt & Barbara Larimore 
Healing the Hurt in Your
Marriage

Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg 
Love for a Lifetime
Dr. James Dobson 
Love Must be Tough
Dr. James Dobson 
Keys for Marriage Marriage Without Regrets   Boundaries In Marriage
Keys for Marriage
Dr. Myles Munroe 
A Marriage Without
Regrets
Kay Arthur 
Boundaries in Marriage
Dr. Henry Cloud &
Dr. John Townsend 
How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong
Leslie Vernick
 

Section #7: Blending Families -  the ultimate challenge
Statistically, Many of you reading this will eventually remarry (if you haven't already). If you think being married is difficult, wait until you start blending families! It can be great  if you are equipped with effecting parenting skills and have worked through your own issues, but it can be a nightmare if you haven't.  I would encourage each one of you that is considering starting another family (or blending one) to equip yourself with the best tools that you can find.  Both you and your family will be glad you did.

 
The Blended Marriage   Step Parenting 101  Blended Families  The Smart Step-Family
The Blended Marriage: Building a United Family
Gary Smalley 
Step Parenting 101
Dr. Kevin Leman 
Blended Families:
Creating Harmony as you Build a New Home Life 

Maxine Marsolini

The Smart Step-Family
Ron Deal 
 Living in a Step-Family Without Getting Stepped On  Raising Children in Blended Families Winning the Heart of Your Stepchild  Happily Remarried 
Living in a Step Family
Without Getting Stepped On
Dr. Kevin Leman 
Raising Children in
Blended Families

Maxine Marsolini
Winning the Heart of
Your Stepchild

Bob Barnes 
Happily Remarried: Making Decisions Together - Blending Families Successfully - Building a Love That Will Last
David & Lisa Frisbie  
       

Section #8: Parenting skills that can change your life and theirs
Parenting even under normal circumstances is not an easy task.  During and after divorce, these tools are needed more than ever.  The following section offers help to anyone interested in learning how to effectively and lovingly parent their children.  Become the very best parent you can be, your children are worth it. 

Bringing Up Boys   What a Difference a Daddy Makes  The Five Love Languages of Children  The Five Love Languages of Teenagers
Bringing Up Boys
Dr. James Dobson 
What a Difference a Daddy Makes:  The Indelible Imprint a Dad Leaves on His Daughter's Life
Dr. Kevin Leman 

The Five Love Languages of Children
Gary Chapman &
Dr. Ross Campbell 
The Five Love Languages
of Teenagers
Gary Chapman 
Making Your Children Mind Without Losing Yours   7 Solutions for Burned Out Parents  Single Parenting That Works  Boundaries With Kids
Making Your Children Mind
Without Losing Yours
Dr. Kevin Leman 
Seven Solutions for
Burned-out Parents

Dr. James Dobson 
Single Parenting That Works
Dr. Kevin Leman 
Boundaries with Kids
Dr. Henry Cloud &

Dr. John Townsend
 Help I'm Raising My Children Alone On Our Own   Parenting Surviving to Thriving  Raising Great Kids On Your Own
Help I'm Raising My
Children Alone
T.D. Jakes 
On Our Own: Help and Hope for Single Moms
Lela Gilbert
 
Parenting From Surviving
to Thriving
Charles Swindoll 
Raising Great Kids
On Your Own

David & Lisa Frisbie
Tony Evans Speaks Out on Single Parenting   Single Dad's Survival Guide  The Challenge of Single Fathering Breakthrough Parenting
Tony Evans Speaks Out
On Single Parenting
 
Tony Evans
The Single Dad's Survival Guide
Michael Klumpp 
The Challenge of Single Fathering
Focus on the Family Radio Broadcast
Dr. James Dobson 

Breakthrough Parenting
Dr. Jayne Major
Catch them being good Bringing Up Girls Sacred Parenting Sticking with your teen
Catch them Being Good (pdf)
Dr. Jayne Major

Bringing Up Girls
Dr. James Dobson
Sacred Parenting
Gary L. Thomas
Sticking With Your Teen
Joe White
Teaching Kids about God The Most Important Place on Earth She Calls Me Daddy 101 Ways to be a Long-Distance Super Dad or Mom Too
Teaching Kids about God
John Trent, Rick Osborne & Kurt Bruner
The Most Important
Place on Earth
Robert Wolgemuth
She Calls Me Daddy
Robert Wolgemuth
101 Ways to be a Long-Distance Super Dad
or Mom, too
George Newman
       

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