Parental Alienation Resources

Resources to Help You Recover From
Parental Alienation and Divorce

Below are some books that will help you on your journey to become the very best man or woman you can be. Many of them are books that we read on our journey. We encourage you to take the time to read as many as possible. The better equipped you are the more successful you will be in dealing with what has happened to you. Most of these books are available on Amazon.com or CBD.com. If you purchase any of the books listed below through our link a portion of your purchase will go to helping families affected by Parental Alienation. Click here for a printable version of the list.

Recommended reading is divided into the following sections. If you click on a section below you will be taken to the start of that section of recommended books.

Section #1: Faith & Healing
Section #2: Parental Alienation - the "ultimate hate crime"
Section #3: Children & Divorce
Section #4: Dealing with your emotions and getting rid of the baggage
Section #5: Healing from the devastating effects of divorce
Section #6: Marriage - don't fall into old patterns with a new spouse
Section #7: Blending Families - the ultimate challenge
Section #8: Parenting skills that can change your life and theirs

Section #1: Faith & Healing In my personal opinion, this first group of books deals with the absolute most important aspect of what is going on in your life right now. "Where is God in all of this?" Some of you may be screaming those words while hot tears are streaming down your cheeks. By now you are probably angry and disillusioned with life itself, and possibly even with The One who created us. All I can tell you is this, in my personal journey "everything that others meant for evil pointed me to a God that loves me deeply and will never leave or forsake me, even when, no, especially when it seems that I am wounded, forgotten and alone. Sometimes the only way you know that you're alive is the pain…" These books will reveal, or at the very least re-acquaint you with, the God of the universe that loves you and your children. He is not some "feeble well-meaning old man" on a cloud somewhere. Nor is He "impotent or uncaring" about you or your children. He WANTS you to seek Him in your pain. He loves your children more than you ever could. Find out what His plan is for you and all those "who are called according to His purpose in Christ Jesus". His plan may surprise you, but it will definitely encourage and bring healing to you in the midst of the storm.

When God Doesn't Make Sense Dr. James Dobson	Disappointment With God Phillip Yancy	Purpose Driven Life Rick Warren	Desire John Eldredge

What's So Amazing About Grace Philip Yancy	Case for Christ Lee Strobel	Finding God Dr. Larry Crabb	As Silver Refined Kay Arthur

Wild at Heart John Eldredge	Reasons We Believe Nathan Busenitz	God Will Make a Way Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend	Where is God When it Hurts? Philip Yancy
If you have any questions about a personal relationship with Jesus Christ - we would love to talk with you. In our opinion based upon our own life's experience and observing countless others, until you have a relationship with Him, nothing else really matters. He has all of the answers and healing you so desperately need. Please use the above resources to help you become the kind of father, mother or grandparent that your child deserves.

Section #2: Parental Alienation - The Ultimate Hate Crime These books will explain what Parental Alienation is, how it is used, and how to help your children when you encounter it. A "must have" for anyone experiencing problems with their children, created by Parental Alienation!


Divorce Poison Dr. Richard Warshak	A Family's Heartbreak: A Parents Introduction to Parental Alienation Michael Jeffries and Dr. Joel Davies	Friend of the Court Enemy of the Family Carol Rhodes	Adult Children of Parental Alienation Dr. Amy Baker

Divorce Casualties Dr. Douglas Darnell	Taken Into Custody Stephen Baskerville	A Kidnapped Mind Pamela Richardson	Cheated Ronald E. Smith

Family Court Hell Mark Harris	The Parental Alienation Syndrome Dr. Richard Gardner	Out of Control: Who's Watching Our Child Protection Agencies Brenda Scott	Parental Alienation Dr. L. F. Lowenstein

Elusive Innocense Survival Guide for the Falsely Accused Dean Tong	Courts From Hell - Family InJustice in Canada Frank Simons	I don't Want to Choose How Middle School Kids Can Avoid Choosing One Parent Over the Other Dr. Amy Baker	Children Held Hostage Stanley S. Clawar
			(E-Book - No image available)Beyond the High Road (Advise for handling 17 of the most common Parental Alienation Strategies) Dr. Amy Baker
Unlawful Flight A Parental Kidnapping Glen C. Schulz	Support? System Down DVD	Jake's Closet DVD

Winner Take All: A Woman Exposes the Violation of Men's Rights at the Hands of Family Law Molly Murphy	The Parentectomy A Memoir Kimber Adams

Section #3: Children and Divorce Our children are the innocent victims of our choices and the choices of our ex-spouses. As parents we need to step up to the plate and help them in the healing process. The following books are excellent resources that help children work through the tough and even heart- breaking issues of divorce and a "broken" family.


It's Okay to Cry: A Parent's Guide to Helping Children Through the Losses of Life H. Norman Wright	Broken: Making Sense of Life After Your Parents Divorce Tim Baker	Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce - The Sandcastles Way M. Gary Neuman	The Switching Hour: Kids of Divorce Say Good-bye Again Evon O. Flesberg

What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced William L. Coleman	Helping Children Survive Divorce Dr. Archibald Hart	Helping Children Cope With Divorce Edward Teyber	Helping Your Kids Deal with Anger, Fear and Sadness H. Norman Wright

Generation EX: Adult Children of Divorce and the Healing of Our Pain Jen Abbas	Hope No Matter What: Helping Your Children Heal After Divorce Kim Hill and Lisa Harper	Helping Your Kids Survive Divorce Thomas Whiteman, PhD	Speaking of Divorce How to talk with Your Kids and Help them Cope Kent Winchester & Roberta Beyer

Fred Stays With Me! Nancy Coffelt & Tricia Tusa	Never Far Apart Lieutenant Gary	Two Homes for Tyler Pamela Kennedy	Can Anyone Fix My Broken Heart June Thomas Crews

What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce? Kent Winchester & Roberta Beyer	With My Mom, With My Dad Maribeth Boelts	When Mom and Dad Divorce Emily Menendez-Aponte	Stories for Kids in Divorce Linda Jacobs

Getting a Grip The Heart of Anger Handbook for Teens Lou Priolo	Split: A Graphic Reality Check for Teens Dealing with Divorce Marcus Brotherton	Now What Do I Do?: A Guide to Help Teenagers with Their Parent's Separation or Divorce Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski	Child of Divorce, Child of God Kristine Steakley

I wonder (this coloring and activity book deals with the sensitive subject of Parental Alienation) Kimberly Pressley - Herrick Color Away Pain	Divorce (this coloring and activity book deals with the sensitive subject of Divorce) Kimberly Pressley - Herrick Color Away Pain	Creating a Successful Parenting Plan Dr. Jayne Major (available on the her website www.breakthrougparenting.com)

Section #4: Dealing with your emotions and getting rid of the baggage Most of the time our emotions serve us well. Without them it would be impossible to feel love, compassion, mercy and even grief. But sometimes our emotions become our master, leading us down paths that are fraught with danger and are abusive to those around us. These books can free you from destructive habits and patterns in your life, while helping you set healthy boundaries with those that would harm or take advantage of you and your children.


Make Anger Your Ally Neil Clark Warren, PhD	The Last Addiction Sharon Hersh	Boundaries Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend	Emotions Dr. James Dobson

The Bondage Breaker Neil Anderson	Everyman's Battle Stephen Arterburn	The Control Trap Barbara Sullivan	Getting Through the Tough Stuff Charles Swindoll

Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You Dr. Paul Meier	Safe People Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend	Choosing Forgiveness Nancy Leigh DeMoss	When You've Been Wronged Erwin Lutzer

The Anger Trap Dr. Les Carter	Changes That Heal Dr. Henry Cloud	Avoiding Stress Fractures Charles Swindoll	Your Scars are Beautiful to God Sharon Jaynes

Overcoming Emotions that Destroy Chip Ingram & Dr. Becca Johnson	Helping Those Who Hurt H. Norman Wright	A Woman's Guide to Overcoming Depression Archibald Hart, PhD Catherine Hart Weber, PhD	Unmasking Male Depression Archibald Hart, PhD

Healing Life's Hurts Graham Bretherick	Surviving the Storms of Life H. Norman Wright	A Woman's Forbidden Emotion H. Norman Wright & Gary Oliver

Section #5: Healing From the Devastating Effects of Divorce From our experience dealing with thousands of individuals who have experienced a divorce, most people will tell you that their divorce was one of the most painful and stressful times in their life. Healing from divorce is a process that is often long and uncomfortable but worth every bit of effort you put into the healing process. In addition to the books below we would recommend that you don't try and go through your divorce alone. Hook up with a DivorceCare group in your area. It's a place where you will find caring people who understand the issues you are facing.


When the Vow Breaks Joseph Warren Kniskern	Breaking the Cycle of Divorce John Trent, Ph.D	Torn Asunder Recovering From An Extramarital Affair Dave Carder	Broken Heart on Hold Linda Rooks

New Life After Divorce Bill Butterworth	Hope for the Separated Gary Chapman	Single, Married, Separated Life After Divorce Myles Munroe	Growing Through Divorce Jim Smoke

Desperate Wives: Help and Hope for Women Considering Separation or Divorce Brenda Clayton	Finding the Right One After Divorce Edward Tauber & Jim Smoke	Before You Remarry H. Norman Wright	Saving Your Second Marriage Before it Starts: 9 Questions to Ask Before (and after) You Remarry Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

Section #6: Marriage - don't fall into old patterns with a new spouse What is the last thing you EVER want to go through again...Another divorce! Commit to investing the same amount of time and effort to build an awesome marriage with your spouse, as you would to build anything of great and lasting value. You better have a plan! A bunch of skills and basic understanding of the opposite sex wouldn't hurt either would it? This time have fun. I can tell you this, I thank God everyday for the wife He has given me. She is much more than I deserve or I could ever have imagined. There is hope after divorce!


Love & Respect Dr. Emerson Eggerich	The Five Languages of Love Gary Chapman	Tender Warrior Stu Weber	Yes, Your Marriage Can be Saved: 12 Truths for Rescuing Your Relationship Joe & Michelle Williams

Staying Close Denise & Barbara Rainey	Marriage from Surviving to Thriving Charles Swindoll	Divorce Proof Your Marriage Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg	Growing the Marriage of Your Dreams Max Lucado

Fireproof - DVD (Fireproof is an action-packed love story about a firefighter, his wife, and a marriage worth rescuing!)	Love Dare Stephen Kendrick & Alex Kendrick	Pressure Proof Your Marriage Dennis & Barbara Rainey	Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in your Marriage Lee Strobel

His Brain, Her Brain: How Divinely Designed Differences Can Strengthen Your Marriage Dr. Walt & Barbara Larimore	Healing the Hurt in Your Marriage Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg	Love for a Lifetime Dr. James Dobson	Love Must be Tough Dr. James Dobson

Keys for Marriage Dr. Myles Munroe	A Marriage Without Regrets Kay Arthur	Boundaries in Marriage Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend	How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong Leslie Vernick

Section #7: Blending Families - the ultimate challenge Statistically, Many of you reading this will eventually remarry (if you haven't already). If you think being married is difficult, wait until you start blending families! It can be great if you are equipped with effecting parenting skills and have worked through your own issues, but it can be a nightmare if you haven't. I would encourage each one of you that is considering starting another family (or blending one) to equip yourself with the best tools that you can find. Both you and your family will be glad you did.


The Blended Marriage: Building a United Family Gary Smalley	Step Parenting 101 Dr. Kevin Leman	Blended Families: Creating Harmony as you Build a New Home Life Maxine Marsolini	The Smart Step-Family Ron Deal

Living in a Step Family Without Getting Stepped On Dr. Kevin Leman	Raising Children in Blended Families Maxine Marsolini	Winning the Heart of Your Stepchild Bob Barnes	Happily Remarried: Making Decisions Together - Blending Families Successfully - Building a Love That Will Last David & Lisa Frisbie

Section #8: Parenting skills that can change your life and theirs Parenting even under normal circumstances is not an easy task. During and after divorce, these tools are needed more than ever. The following section offers help to anyone interested in learning how to effectively and lovingly parent their children. Become the very best parent you can be, your children are worth it.


Bringing Up Boys Dr. James Dobson	What a Difference a Daddy Makes: The Indelible Imprint a Dad Leaves on His Daughter's Life Dr. Kevin Leman	The Five Love Languages of Children Gary Chapman & Dr. Ross Campbell	The Five Love Languages of Teenagers Gary Chapman

Making Your Children Mind Without Losing Yours Dr. Kevin Leman	Seven Solutions for Burned-out Parents Dr. James Dobson	Single Parenting That Works Dr. Kevin Leman	Boundaries with Kids Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

Help I'm Raising My Children Alone T.D. Jakes	On Our Own: Help and Hope for Single Moms Lela Gilbert	Parenting From Surviving to Thriving Charles Swindoll	Raising Great Kids On Your Own David & Lisa Frisbie

Tony Evans Speaks Out On Single Parenting Tony Evans	The Single Dad's Survival Guide Michael Klumpp	The Challenge of Single Fathering Focus on the Family Radio Broadcast Dr. James Dobson	Breakthrough Parenting Dr. Jayne Major

Catch them Being Good (pdf) Dr. Jayne Major	Bringing Up Girls Dr. James Dobson	Sacred Parenting Gary L. Thomas	Sticking With Your Teen Joe White

Teaching Kids about God John Trent, Rick Osborne & Kurt Bruner	The Most Important Place on Earth Robert Wolgemuth	She Calls Me Daddy Robert Wolgemuth	101 Ways to be a Long-Distance Super Dad or Mom, too George Newman