Resources to Help You Recover From
Parental Alienation and a High Conflict Divorce
We have listed books that will help you on
your journey to become the very best man or woman you can be.
Many of them are books that we read on our journey. We
encourage you to take the time to read as many as possible.
The better equipped you are the more successful you will be in
dealing with what has happened to you. Most of these books
are available on Amazon.com or CBD.com. If you purchase
any of the books listed below through our link a portion of your
purchase will go to helping families affected by Parental
Alienation. Click here for a
printable version of the list.
Recommended reading is divided into the following sections.
If you click on a section below you will be taken to the start
of that section of recommended books.
Section #1: Faith & Healing
In my personal opinion, this first group of books deals
with the absolute most important aspect of what is going
on in your life right now. "Where is God in all of
Some of you may be screaming those words while hot tears
are streaming down your cheeks. By now you are probably
angry and disillusioned with life itself, and possibly
even with The One who created us. All I can tell you is
this, in my personal journey "everything that others
meant for evil pointed me to a God that loves me deeply
and will never leave or forsake me, even when, no,
especially when it seems that I am wounded, forgotten
and alone. Sometimes the only way you know that you're
alive is the pain…"
These books will reveal, or at the very least
re-acquaint you with, the God of the universe that loves
you and your children. He is not some "feeble
well-meaning old man" on a cloud somewhere. Nor is He
"impotent or uncaring" about you or your children.
He WANTS you to seek Him in your pain. He loves your
children more than you ever could. Find out what His
plan is for you and all those "who are called according
to His purpose in Christ Jesus". His plan may surprise
you, but it will definitely encourage and bring healing
to you in the midst of the storm.
Section #3: Children &
High Conflict Divorce
Our children are the innocent victims of
our choices and the choices of our ex-spouses. We
often fool ourselves into believing that our children will
benefit from the divorce. Nothing could be farther
from the truth. As
parents we need to step up to the plate and help them in
the healing process. The following books are
excellent resources that will give you in sight into
what is going on in your child and help them work through the
tough and even heart- breaking issues of divorce and a
Section #4: Dealing with your emotions and getting rid
of the baggage
Most of the time our emotions serve us well. Without them it would be impossible to feel love, compassion, mercy and even grief. But sometimes our emotions become our master, leading us down paths that are fraught with danger and are abusive to those around us. These books can free you from destructive habits and patterns in your life, while helping you set healthy boundaries with those that would harm or take advantage of you and your children.
Section #5: Healing from the devastating effects of
high conflict divorce
From our experience dealing with thousands of individuals who have experienced a divorce, most people will tell you that their divorce was one of the most painful and stressful times in their life. Healing from divorce
especially a high conflict divorce is a process that is often long and uncomfortable but worth every bit of effort you put into the healing process. In addition to the books below we would recommend that you don't try and go through your divorce alone. Hook up with a
DivorceCare group in your area. It's a place where you will find caring people who understand the issues you are facing.
Section #6: Marriage - don't fall into old patterns with
a new spouse
What is the last thing you EVER want to go through again...Another divorce! Commit to investing the same amount of time and effort to build an awesome marriage with your spouse, as you would to build anything of great and lasting value. You better have a plan! A bunch of skills and basic understanding of the opposite sex wouldn't hurt either would it? This time have fun.
I can tell you this, I thank God everyday for the wife He has given me. She is much more than I deserve or I could ever have imagined. There is hope after divorce!
Section #7: Blending Families - the ultimate challenge
Statistically, Many of you reading this will eventually remarry (if you haven't already). If you think being married is difficult, wait until you start blending families! It can be great if you are equipped with effecting parenting skills and have worked through your own issues, but it can be a nightmare if you haven't. I would encourage each one of you that is considering starting another family (or blending one) to equip yourself with the best tools that you can find. Both you and your family will be glad you did.
Section #8: Parenting skills that can change your life
Parenting even under normal circumstances is not an easy task. During and after divorce, these tools are needed more than ever. The following section offers help to anyone interested in learning how to effectively and lovingly parent their children. Become the very best parent you can be, your children are worth it.
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