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We all have very unique stories regarding our parental alienation journeys. Rick’s story is highlighted on our website.  Although my story is not as extreem as Rick’s it is none-the-less just as real.

I was married for just a little less than 19 years when  my husband asked me for a divorce.  He had found someone else and was moving on with his life.  I determined to only answer direct questions from my daughters and not give them more information than they needed.  The girls were 14 and 16 at the time. When asked by my them why I thought their Dad had an affair I shared with them that I had seen a video he had made where he proposed to the other woman.  We were still married and he had not legally filed for a divorce or even moved out of the house.  Our daughers were understandably upset and the oldest confronted him about the video. He lied to her and told her that the video did not exist, I was just trying to make him look bad and that none of it had happened.  At the time he wanted to place the blame on me rather than take responsibliity for his decisions. You can imagine the wedge this put in the relationship with my daughter. Afterall she was daddy’s little girl and she was convinced that I was trying to destroy the relationship between her and her father.  Amazing that I chose the higher road – to not speak ill of my soon to be ex husband and the very thing he accused me of was what he was doing himself.  For years she tolerated me at best but most of the time was angry and wanted nothing to do with me.  I had no idea what had caused the rift but I was determined to love her in spite of her anger and resentment towards me.  Seven years later, I received a paniced phone call from my daughter.  She was visiting her father during a college break, found and watched the video (which he denied existed).  Needless to say she was not real happy with her dad. Although it hasn’t always been easy, we were able to start the rebuilding process from that point. It has been just over 7 years since her discovery of the truth and  I am happy to say that we have been able to put the past behind us and now at age 30 she is one of my very best friends.

What still amazes me even to this day is that someone you once loved and trusted would deliberately target  you and sabatoge your relationship with your child just to make themselves look good.  I know that most of you, like Rick, have experienced far more severe parental alienation than I did but the pain of those 7 years was and is very real.  I lost valuable time with my daughter during very pivitol teen years that I can never get back.   I am just so thankful that God has restored the relationship now.

If your experience is anything like ours, you have felt that you are all alone.  Family and friends although they wanted to support you really don’t understand what you are going through.  In our lives they were convinced that we had an extreme case, a bad judge and a particularly vindictive ex spouse.  But that for the most part the family court system was a good system.  Since starting Keeping Families Connected, we have been told countless times, by more individuals than we could count, from numerous countries around the world, that they felt they were all alone and just reading our story had comforted them.   With that said,  please share your parental alienation story to help others gain courage and support in their journey through parental alienation. Thanks. — Barb —

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1 Beth Ann January 10, 2013 at 3:45 pm

I Am Not Really Certain Where To Start ..
The “Story” Is Long ..
And ..”It Flew In .. Out Of The Dark” .. ( December 2002 ) ..
I Never Saw It Coming ..
– My Children’s Abuse ..
– Me Stopping It Right Away ..
– “With The Strongest Of Any ..”Real Mother/Parent’s Love”..
– ( No .. This Does NOT .. Only Happen To Men ) ..
– “No One Would DARE ..
– Touch Or Harm Them In Front Of Me Or .. Anytime” !!
– ( the abuse started after the divorce ) ..
– I Was Not Out .. “To Harm Anyone” ..
– I Was Merely Protecting My Babies ..
– That Was My Job .. Right ??
– Unbelievable .. ( accept to maybe those here,on this site ) ..

I Keep Waiting To Wake Up .. And “Hear “My 2 Children” ..
– Alexandra Would Be “Making Me Laugh At Her Typical
– ( 13 yr old ) Teenage Drama” !!
– “My Princess” ( no one has ever made me laugh harder ) ..
– The Latest Boyfriend Update ..
– Getting Our Nail’s Done Together ..
– Our Conversation’s On The Way To “Cheerleader or Horseback
Riding” ..
– Shopping Our Heart’s Out !!
– That 15 Minute’s “Every Night” ..
– That She Could Talk To Me About ANYTHING ..”Just Our Time”
And ..
– Christopher Would Be Wanting Another “Big Hug” !!
– He Was Such A Sweet Child ..”My Angel Baby”
– ( and still is in my heart ) ..
– ( he was 5 yrs old .. when our nightmare began ) ..
– Just A Little Guy ..
– “With His Big Blue Eye’s and Blonde Curl’s and Rosy Cheek’s”
– All BOY Through .. And Through !!
– “I Still Think He Was Born To Have A Ball, A Guitar Or
Anything To Draw Or Build In His Hand’s”..
– What A Beautiful Gifted Child He Alway’s Was ..
– And .. I Believe Still Is ..
– However That Is Not “My World Anymore” ..
– Accept I Lived It ..
– And Still Do ..
– I Just Don’t Get To “See or Talk To Them” ..
– No “I Do Not Have Any Type Of Criminial Record” ..
– No .. I Have Never Had .. “A Drug or Alcohol Addiction” ..
– No Mental Problem’s ( accept my broken heart ) ..
– I Am Highly Educated ..
– ( I love to learn and I am never done growing ) ..
– I Was As Close To Perfect As They Come ..
– Loving and Deeply Caring ( maybe a little over protective ) ..
– Our Home Was Alway’s Warm and In Lovely Order .. Welcoming
– I Love To Cook and Garden .. ( or I did ) ..
– MOST OF THE JOY .. IS GONE ..
***********************************************************Now ..
“I Live In The Joy Of Yesterday And The Hope Of Tomorrow” !!
( it sounds bad when I hear myself say ) ..
“It has been 10 year’s” !!
It Was “Horrible” .. The Other Day .. When Someone Said ..
No Beth .. It Has Been “A DECADE” !!
It Took My Breathe Away ..
The “Heartbreak” Is Way To Deep ..
The Betrayal .. “Nothing I Would Ever .. Even Imagine” !!
And .. The Almost Unbelievable Devastation” ..
And Full Of ( ALOT ) .. “Of Tear’s On My Pillow” ..
– “Yes There Is Alot More To This Story” !!
– I Just Got Brave Enough To “Put This Into The Cyber World” !!
– Although .. I Have Visited This Site Several Time’s ..
I WAS BLESSED .. THE DAY I DISCOVERED IT !!
That Was .. ( 3 month’s ago) ..
I Knew ..”I Was Not Alone” !! ( more later ) .. Beth

2 Susan January 10, 2013 at 5:57 pm

My soon to be ex husband and I were together for 23 yrs, 18 of those married. We had a beautiful daughter in 1996. She is now 16. Feb 2012 he came to me and told me we were done and told me to move out. I said no … I said I guess we should talk to our daughter and tell her we are splitting. He said no need he had already talked to her and she was ok with it. Later she told me that he had been asking her for a long time who she would live with if we split, she told me she said both of us. He had started a new job in 2011 and met a woman who he brought into our home as a friend. He was having an affair with her the whole time. To this day he still says they are not together yet he has been living with her since we split. I had him served papers at her home very early in the morning. Our daughter is supposed to be living with him because I could not afford to to get my own place and moved back in with my dad who is 88 and needs help and she did not want to move schools, I now live on the other side of the city. I don’ t drive and he was dropping her off to me every other weekend only. When we were separating we had a paralegal do our separation agreement at his demand I was not comfortable with that but was bullied into it with him telling me I would be left on the street penniless and would never see my daughter if i went for alimony or got a lawyer. He was very controlling throughout our relationship I see that now we are apart….so try and make a long story short … over the summer he did so many things… he has made our daughter lie about where he is living and the fact that he left her with his mother to live and not with him. He stole time from me getting her to lie about it telling me she was hanging with “friends” when she was hanging out with his girlfriend or the both of them. Yes I know this as fact I confronted her and she admitted it. Now that I have served him with divorce papers and have to redo all the papers the paralegal did that are in no way legal due to misrepresentation and not conforming to property laws. I named the paralegal in a law suit ( he had back in June helped me took me to a lawyer to do the divorce papers backing me up with my case) and in retaliation he went to my ex and told him I had said things. Then the both of them and my exs mom told my daughter all kinds of lies to make her not want to see me . A friend of mine managed to text her and get a reply and my daughter told her that she was not talking to me because the paralegal said I told him that her dad was not her dad. And they are reinforcing that … I have not seen or talked to her since Oct 31 2012. They have had over a year to plant things in her mind about me. I never asked her if they said bad things about me. When we were together I wanted to make it about her and I. When we first split thing between her and I were so good and as time went on she started being mean to me like he used to be stopped saying I love you and texting, I would text her every day at first just asking how school was. He swore to me he would make her hate me. This is a fraction of what has gone on, I have a journal 30 some odd page of the crap hes pulled and conversations between us … somehow I am the bad person and now I may never see my daughter again. Its in the courts hands now. The truth will prevail……

3 zina bennett February 28, 2013 at 1:00 pm

I have been battling a sa molestation chrge against a man that has heightened from church to church. The dhr worker in limestone county ( Jamie york ) and the investorgator( Leigh Ann) have both let the people they put my son back with walk all over them and me. Now they decided that they wouldn’t go get my child after the courts gave him back to me. This has been an ongoing battle for the last 4 years. Now I’m trying to find a way to have dhr sued.

4 Matt May 17, 2013 at 11:24 am
5 chris May 24, 2013 at 11:05 am

Hi,
I am paying a very steep penalty of $3917 month ($3,000 spousal) since Jan 2012 because my ex was somehow allowed to file a motion for an abridgement of time hearing. In her affidavit that was the leverage to get the hearing; she had to move as the marital property sold and I was unwilling to settle/secure funds for her without this hearing; This was in the affidavit. Fact of the matter is; This court hearing was Dec 2011 and the marital property is still on the market. I have had one low ball offer and this was March 2013. Additionally, I have time stamped separation agreements which I was working through with her Sep-Oct 2011. So, she goes to a lawyer, the lawyer see the vast delta in incomes and the rest is history.

I walk out of court with a very one-sided judgement, marital debt #’s were not even discussed. Lawyers went back and forth after and since I have ended up with a ridiculous support payment and no marital debt being returned to me and now FSOS is all over me to pay the arrears. The arrears is exactly the amount for the mortgage payments the past three months.

I applied for a motion for undue financial hardship and was granted 30 Jan 2013. I figured I would at least get some things sorted out. Her lawyers goes in requesting her client get rent of $400.00 from me for the marital home that is vacant and an additional $400.00 so her client can purchase a vehicle….really!!! Her solicitor successfully once again muddied the waters and I am yet to get a response from the courts for this hearing….3 months later.

It would take way too long to go through all the defamation, bullying and harassment I have since received from this particular lawyer as well.

I want to commence with due process of proving that the affidavit was falsified and there was no empirical data to back up her claim that the house was sold and she had to move. NB Law Society seems the logical direction to file a complaint against a lawyer, but it seems a society that may not be impartial as it is run by lawyers with oversight to lawyers.

I have also involved Minster of Justice New Brunswick, but that resulted in a very diplomatic response.

Any tidbits would be helpful.

How do I get this out in the public media? My information is 100% empirical based data.
Thanks,
C

6 Holly August 14, 2013 at 11:38 am

Soon after the birth of my second child, I left the relationship with their father. My 2 children and I went to a transition home. I was able to move on with my life, eventually attaining sole custody of the children. Their father was given very limited access based on his struggles with mental health and the criminal justice system.Over the course of the next decade, there have been endless court applications, 2  “Views of the Child” reports and MCFD involvement.  I have always seen it as my responsibility to shelter my kids from this as much as possible. Unfortunately, this has caused them to glorify their Dad and villify me (and my new Husband). I know this is a compliment to me as they see me as the “safe” parent. It is important to note here that I recognize that it extremely important for my children to have a relationship with their Dad. Within that, though that relationship needs to be safe. When it isn’t, I exercise my right as Sole Custodial parent. It is so interesting the way my kids truly see their Dad as a victim.Unfortunately, both kids are now refusing to go to counselling (I have been facilitating counselling for them since they could talk). Their Dad had told them that I was sending them to counselling “illegally” .I hope this helps you to understand our family dynamic.My personal counsellor has advised me to be honest with my kids about their Dad’s choices (i.e. bad behaviour) so that they can begin to see him as a Man, not a God. 

7 Holly August 14, 2013 at 7:15 pm

Soon after the birth of my second child, I left the relationship with their father. My 2 children and I went to a transition home. I was able to move on with my life, eventually attaining sole custody of the children. Their father was given very limited access based on his struggles with mental health and the criminal justice system.

Over the course of the next decade, there have been endless court applications, 2  “Views of the Child” reports and MCFD involvement.  I have always seen it as my responsibility to shelter my kids from this as much as possible. Unfortunately, this has caused them to glorify their Dad and villify me (and my new Husband). I know this is a compliment to me as they see me as the “safe” parent. It is important to note here that I recognize that it extremely important for my children to have a relationship with their Dad.

Within that, though that relationship needs to be safe. When it isn’t, I exercise my right as Sole Custodial parent. It is so interesting the way my kids truly see their Dad as a victim.Unfortunately, both kids are now refusing to go to counselling (I have been facilitating counselling for them since they could talk). Their Dad had told them that I was sending them to counselling “illegally” .I hope this helps you to understand our family dynamic.My personal counsellor has advised me to be honest with my kids about their Dad’s choices (i.e. bad behaviour) so that they can begin to see him as a Man, not a God. Soon after the birth of my second child, I left the relationship with their father. My 2 children and I went to a transition home. I was able to move on with my life, eventually attaining sole custody of the children. Their father was given very limited access based on his struggles with mental health and the criminal justice system.Over the course of the next decade, there have been endless court applications, 2  “Views of the Child” reports and MCFD involvement. 

 I have always seen it as my responsibility to shelter my kids from this as much as possible. Unfortunately, this has caused them to glorify their Dad and villify me (and my new Husband). I know this is a compliment to me as they see me as the “safe” parent. It is important to note here that I recognize that it extremely important for my children to have a relationship with their Dad. Within that, though that relationship needs to be safe. When it isn’t, I exercise my right as Sole Custodial parent. It is so interesting the way my kids truly see their Dad as a victim.

Unfortunately, both kids are now refusing to go to counselling (I have been facilitating counselling for them since they could talk). Their Dad had told them that I was sending them to counselling “illegally” .I hope this helps you to understand our family dynamic.My personal counsellor has advised me to be honest with my kids about their Dad’s choices (i.e. bad behaviour) so that they can begin to see him as a Man, not a God. 

8 Amy Eckardt August 18, 2013 at 4:22 pm

I am terminating my parental rights on Tuesday. Why(?) you ask. I fought 10- years to get ample time with my children. For 3 of those years I did not see them and had no contact with them (not by choice) I went to court last year and was only able to get supervised visitation because the judge found me unfit in a prior JA case due to battered woman syndrome. Please do not judge, for the man that beat me and the children is the one with custody and the power to continue to abuse me and the children. I am court ordered to pay support to children I rarely see- 8 times in one year (total of 16 hours in a facility) and never get to speak to them on the phone, share a holiday, or see them on their birthday. I am tired of being a pocketbook for the state. Since I am not a mom I see no reason to be a parent of these children I have no contact to speak of. Any ideas for me before I take the final leap? Sincerely,

9 Ellen August 26, 2013 at 5:25 am

My son’s ex-wife contacted my web host’s legal department and demanded that my website be taken down because I had posted photos of my grandchildren with their father, cousins, aunts and us––their grandparents––(my son gave me explicit permission to post photos), but this ex gets her way all the time. She is vindictive to the core. All I can do is pray for her and that someday she will realize how she has hurt so many people. My two estranged grandchildren had seen the website, so that was a good thing.

10 Rick Nischalke September 2, 2013 at 10:26 am

Check with an attorney but as far as I am aware without an explicit court order you do not have to take the website down. We were told by the ACLU that it falls under freedom of speech and freedom of the press.

11 dad September 25, 2013 at 8:31 pm

you got to check out this utube dad being set up by his ex wife,
its crazy harsh and real
go to utube and put in : parental alienation by ben applegate

12 Donna October 6, 2013 at 7:30 am

Three years ago, the extreme parental alienation began–a few years after the divorce brought on; however, my daughter had been groomed no later than age four (we divorced when she was 12) to prefer him & spend little fun time with her older brothers (from a previous marriage) & me. I wanted him to stop dividing my daughter & sons by encouraging her to disregard & disrespect their belongings & indirectly & directly punishing them for things he overlooked with our daughter. He made me I wanted more family time & mother-daughter time, but any reasonable requests (that should not even have to be made) resulted in an increase of control to do the opposite & mental abuse. His plan to abandon us for another (married) women was revealed with the help of the paramour’s husband. But my ex husband, so convinced he is of his entitlement, has revised history to make him the victim & hero. During his sexual conquests/pursuits, he was completely unavailable to our daughter–this upset me greatly because this hurt my daughter. I had bought her a cell phone so she & her dad could freely communicate without going thru me. He married (his 5th wife) & left my daughter out of the wedding as well as a trip to Disneyland. It wasn’t until I started seeing someone a few years after the divorce that he decided to take our daughter on vacation. But he also encouraged her at 13 to accuse me of abuse. He now has her as a tax deduction, receives child support from me (owning his own business, he hides his income) , & I continue to take responsibility for health insurance. But that is not enough–he has turned my daughter against me & has distanced her from BOTH grandmothers (maybe because his mom loves me & asserts I WAS a good mother–my X’s dad cut her off from all 4 of her children, claiming they had to fear her–they are still brainwashed) & a loving brother. My daughter had a suicide scare 6 months after moving in with him & stepmom & being completely cut off from the rest of us. She seems to find relief in expressing herself thru singing & piano, but the rest of her family is no longer welcome to recitals even though I welcomed & encouraged everyone to any events. My daughter continues to pierce herself & do other self-destructive things by engaging in compulsive behavior. I am upset that she has been put on two medications: antidepressant & anti anxiety–not because of the meds that help her deal, but the fact that she is having to deal with something so bad that it takes med to mask these horrible wrongs being done to her. She will not even communicate with me. The court system has shown itself to be incompetent at best & only excites her conflict-loving father who delights in abusing me–he laughed in my mother’s face (because my daughter no longer visits her) when my mom ran into him in the store. My poor mom: my dad turned my sister from showing her respect years ago–my sisters mental state is often unstable even now. I pray for all victims suffering from this cruel method of abuse. I could barely function for the first two years –I put on a brave, stoic face for all my kids. I now advocate for peace.

13 ben applegate October 15, 2013 at 10:55 pm

PLEASE WATCH MY UTUBE VIDEO OF MOM AND SCHOOL PRINCIPAL CAUGHT IN THE ACT OF PARENTAL ALIENATION WITH HIDDEN VIDEO, TYPE IN: ” MOM CAUGHT ON VIDEO BY BEN APPLEGATE PART 1 &2″

14 gabby October 22, 2013 at 10:41 pm

Hi my name is gabby i am married with one step son in the home and my husband and 3 kids well my daughter made a alligation that one of my step sons touched her now shes sayin he hasnt well now dfacs is involved and they said the only way i could get my daughter back is make all males leave the household well the one who supposably messed with her lives with his aunt so they made my husband and his other son which is a minor also bc thats the only way they would give my daughter back to me is that wrong? Bc they didnt do anything wrong they wasnt accused of doimg it it was his other son so i think its wrong that my husband and his other son had to leave just bc my husband is the other boys dad theyvsaid other males can come around them justnot them why?just bc his son that lives with his aunt was accused of it its not there fault they basically threw them out on the streets i think i might have a lawsuit ??

15 gabby October 22, 2013 at 10:44 pm

Sorry they made them leave the house they said if i want my daughter back they have to leave but why they didnt do anything there discrimating against them just bc his son that lives with his aunt was accused of doing somethin

16 Donna October 23, 2013 at 5:47 am

Thank you for inspiring me. My defenses are up because it hurts so much to be cut off from my daughter. Also, I have reason to be scared for her emotional well-being. I’ve been afraid to speak out because of the judgment towards moms who have been rejected by their child. I’ve also been afraid because my ex-husband delights in abusing me — it’s so important for him to be in control. Please share your thoughts (criticisms as well) about my blog & contribute to my blog. Thank you, again.

17 Tim Johnston October 29, 2013 at 2:18 am

I came here initially for a commercial modeling assignment and to sample the wonderful Japanese cuisine. I was tired of the United States and wanted to see the world. Japan was strange yet fascinating. It is a country where “no” means “yes” and “yes” means “no.”I met my ex-wife on the night of my birthday in Narita, close to the airport. Coincidentally, we were born on the same day. That’s how this story began. We shared drinks and laughs. She was set to leave for the United Kingdom soon to study English. She gave me her name card and I called her a few days later. We began to date. She left me her car to use while she was away. I decided to move to Japan and wait for her return. We exchanged love letters and I took a job teaching English at the beach. This allowed me to exercise my passion for surfing. She returned and we moved in together, an arrangement that lasted eleven years.We were married for two of those eleven years. We felt we had a good relationship. We took many overseas trips together and she even spent time with my mother and sister in France. Over the years she repeatedly asked my family, “When will Tim marry me?”

Some nine years after we first met, our wonderful son Kai Endo was born. It was the best day of my life when I saw his smiling face for the first time. He had the cutest grin and was definitely a mixed-race child. He looked more caucasian than Japanese, with blondish hair, but with his mother’s forehead and almond-shaped Asian eyes. He was big too, weighing about 3,500 grams at birth.

His mother returned to the apartment we had recently purchased after the traditional six weeks with her family. She looked exhausted, as was to be expected with a young infant and the new challenges of sleep deprivation. I began to help more with the chores and be the best husband I could be.

Conversations became more rigid and she often shouted demands at me. I accepted her change in behavior as the result of her being tired or having difficulty with her new role as a mother. Increasingly, she began to mention how single mothers in Japan are entitled to all sorts of benefits, such as subsidized education, health care, etc.

I confronted her. “Why would you say such a thing?” But her reply was, “I don’t need you! You’re a foreigner anyway. Our son is Japanese and I never want to live in your country!” I asked her how she could be so mean and spiteful.

We were drifting apart. I walked on eggshells around her when she was having her moments. It wasn’t long after that she asked for a divorce. I asked her if she was joking. She said no and walked away. When I saw her the following day, she asked me when I planned to move out. I realized that this was no joke. She wanted me out and to have nothing to do with me anymore. I tried to get her to talk but she just tuned out. I remember vividly holding my son for the final two months before I moved out and just kissing him over and over and telling him how much I loved him and that this wasn’t his fault.

I signed the divorce papers and took an apartment close by so I could be near my son. My ex-wife had the audacity to tell me I should return to the United States. I had never felt so low in my life. After having my son, I felt complete as a person and loved my ex-wife more than anything. We had a child together. Now, my world was in shock. I reminded myself that I had to be a man. I decided to study Japanese more and accept being independent in a strange land. It was so difficult and often I couldn’t sleep. My nights were filled with questions about my son. What did he eat today? What’s he doing? Is he watching his favorite cartoon?

I told his mother upon moving out that I would see my son everyday. She agreed that I could see him once a week. We would meet in a local park and play together, sing songs and study English. He was always happy to see me and I was even happier to see him. My ex-wife, on the other hand, never once looked at me or talked to me when I met my son. As a young boy, he could understand English very well.

Some four years passed, and then one day everything changed. My wife got out of her car and walked towards me. I thought, “Wow! She’s actually going to speak to me.” I will never forget that she came within two meters of me. She looked scared. Then she said, “We are busy and I don’t have time for you to see your son anymore. I’m working now and I’m too busy.”

I live in the same neighborhood, I said. I can help, I can take him where he needs to go and pick him up from kindergarten. She said no… End of story! “Why don’t you just go back to your country and leave us alone?” she suggested. My son was seeing us like this for the first time, and a tear began to roll down his face. I asked her why she is doing this in front of our son.

She finally agreed to a two-hour meeting every two weeks. I was devastated. She grabbed my son’s arm and dragged him to the car. “I love you Kai,” I shouted. “Don’t worry, everything will be OK.”

The situation soon became unbearable. I couldn’t believe someone could be so heartless. She never returned my calls or emails inquiring about my son. I would confirm our next meeting but she would refuse to reply. This was escalating into her dominance and the alienation of her son’s father. Kai was now four years old. This carried on for two more years.

Meanwhile, my son was growing into a young man. I was so proud of him. When we did meet, we had the best four hours per month, filling the time with a lot of pictures, sports, affection and whatever else he wanted.

And then came 2:46 pm, March 11. After the initial tremor of the earthquake had subsided I panicked. I called my ex-wife and sent her emails to check that my son was safe. She never replied. Not even to say he was unhurt. I drove by her apartment but the lights were out, as with most places. Her car was gone. I guessed she had gone to her mother’s. I began to panic. I knew Japan would never be the same after March 11. I needed to see my son and hear his voice. I was worried that he may be suffering from trauma.

Following the earthquake, his mother never let the two of us talk. She probably thought I would move. Perhaps she would tell my son I had evacuated or died. However, after about a month I received a letter asking me to attend mediation court. When I opened the letter I fell to my knees and sobbed. The letter from her read, “I’m busy and have stress. You can see your son after mediation court.”

I finished my seventh mediation hearing. The court granted me one visit with my son. He was worried about me and his mother refused to tell him anything. I comforted him and was thankful he was able to see his father. However, she told the court that I couldn’t see my son anymore. She is too busy, she said.

Japan must change its child custody laws! My current situation is unacceptable. I love my only son. I won’t ever give him up. Surely I have rights too? He is my son as well!

This is where I am today. I urge Japan to change its custody laws. I and all the other left-behind parents deserve rights and access to our children. Japanese law grants sole custody, usually to the mother. This was my wife’s plan all along. I just want to be a good father and hope Japan wakes up soon and realizes children need both parents. Loving children shouldn’t be alienated from loving parents. Japan.
Tim Johnston Japan
Kai Endo Japan

18 Cora November 19, 2013 at 6:46 pm

Our hearts go out to Lauren regarding the loss of her son. The pain, loss and suffering that this poor lady had to endure for all those lost years of missing her son due to an abusive marriage…words cannot be expressed…just emotions. Why do parents enable their children for their own selfish reasons? For one day the children will become adults and they will never know the truth of the other side of the story (whether it be from their mother or father). For these innocent children are convinced that there is only one side of the truth and therefore are “conditioned” to believe the one side and they take the “condtioning” into their adulthood. We encourage all parents to seek counselling not only for themselves but more importantly for their children and very important that the children must have counselling in order to grow and not fill their lives with anger and resentment
towards the other parent. Lauren’s story is a very sad example of what one family can do to ruin an innocent Mother’s life and her sons. Lauren…we support you and your other son who has a disability! We pray that god will help you find the strength and courage to pursue each day. Maybe one day very soon your son will realize the truth of what his family have done to separate him from you. We are sure the father has done the exact same type of damage to his other children from other numerous marriages. Very sad!

19 HOLLANDER December 31, 2013 at 2:41 pm

To all those with morals and to all those who love all children, that this David J. Glass Esq. PhD would giggle & laugh at me while waiting to see the judge. Shortly after this attached letter dated 2-12-2012 was received by the community of Malibu, CA this David J. Glass Esq. PhD conspired to injure a 3rd party (myself) , suborned perjury and falsified evidence just before he closed down his practice and went to FMBK Law.The CA State Bar has just received a 2nd complaint regarding this matter.

Hollander

2-12-12 Mr. Graham J Miller

REGARDING CHILD ABUSE

To The Principals of Malibu Elementary Schools and To Whom it may concern within the LAUSD and SMMUSD administrations, Directors or other persons.
Dear Sir Madam or MS,

I am writing to you firstly as a parent. I have a child in a Malibu public school. I am also writing as a Citizen, and therefore concerned in a more global manner with issues that I personally find disturbing and relevant. I believe a possible failure to perform to ethical codes of several professions, let alone what any normal person may find to be reasonable is about to, and could in the future lead to embarrassment, public consternation and at best a complete lack of faith ,trust and confidence in the above agencies.

I have recently been informed by my daughter Lily-Jane Faith Miller that her mother has taken her out of Callahan elementary (Northridge); and she is now at some school in Malibu district. (Grade 2)

My reasons for my concern follow.

Within the Malibu school district there is a teacher, (C Cullen) who has accused her ex-husband of two counts of sexual abuse of their son, and 5 other counts of abuse of their son (11). This alleged abuse according to Ms. Cullen and her Attorney took place over the past 5 years.

I would like a notation in my daughter’s file that she is never to be placed in class with the above person as her “(my daughters)” teacher. I apologize in in that I amenable to provide more details on my daughter’s whereabouts (school) but her Mom has not provided that info. I’m sure Dr Jacob the principal at Callahan would be able to assist.

In MS Cullen’s divorce and custody case she utilized the services of a Mr. D Glass Esq.(Attorney) Mr Glass is also a PhD in Psychology .Mr. Glass was also utilized by the mother of my daughter, Lily -Jane in my own divorce and custody matter. Mr. Glass a Psychologist/ Attorney and mandated reporter saw fit to bring allegations of sexual abuse of a child and 4 allegations of other forms of abuse of MS Cullen’s son Sammy before family court. These all were investigated by the Police DCFS, and the District Attorney. They were found to be without either Medical or Credentialed 3rd party verification and closed therefore as unsubstantiated. These allegations were brought by MS Cullen via the services of Mr. Glass and occurred regularly before the summer school break on a yearly basis. MS Cullen had also recently remarried a Mr Brian Winsick another Teacher and coach in the Conejo Valley. Their marriage took place just prior to the allegations beginning.

I will now outline my concerns and reasons for the request of the notation in my daughters file.

It is my belief that the relationship between this teacher Ms. Cullen and her attorney and my own ex-wife and the same attorney is cause for reasonable concern. That to avoid any unfortunate incident where god forbid I was to be accused by my daughter’s mother of something similar as MS Cullen accused her ex-husband of it is imperative no establish able link is in place as could lead to suspicion of collusion. The worst case scenario that Ms. Cullen at some time becomes my daughters teacher and subsequently claims are made that perhaps my daughter had inferred to MS Cullen that I had abused her ( Lily-Jane) and MS Cullen then could relate this to my daughters mother through their mutual attorney, or contact at school is beyond horrific. I feel the separation of my daughter and this teacher protects LAUSD/SMMUSD and my daughter and me.

In a more global sense I am concerned that a teacher married to another teacher and coach and an attorney who is also licensed as a psychologist made no attempt to make aware the LAUSD or the SMUSD of their concerns. (Two allegations of Sexual abuse and five other allegations of abuse.) Surely some ethical codes of their respective professions would demand other relevant or parties who could be impacted be advised.

When a teacher finds the resources to pay $500 an hour to a Beverly Hills Attorney for 5 years surely there is a need for verification that such allegations will bring in terms of the expenses the County and State will bear during the protracted conflict. Especially if the accused has been made indigent by the continued claims and has suffered stress or work issues stemming from such accusations and is no longer paying taxes.

As a parent I certainly would be outraged if I knew my child’s teacher was aware of a legitimate abuse situation and if, as in this case it included Sexual Abuse allegations and that teacher did nothing to bring attention to it as could protect other children I would expect answers. Specifically why and how a person(s) (2 Teachers, (Coach), An Attorney/Psychologist) would go ahead and consciously disregard accusations of such a serious nature, and then they having brought these allegations before family court and the district attorney go ahead and let other parents arrange activities with the person they were accusing of abuse in a manner as would expose other children to the accused.

What is more disturbing and I expect the press will find disturbing is that repeated allegations of this nature are often utilized in family conflicts and that this is acceptable is in fact a failure of morality within our society. I believe this failure may have had a profound societal impact.

That the failure of an application of evidentiary standards as are normally applied in criminal matters may have allowed credentialed persons possibly with questionable motive to use family court in a manipulative and deceitful way to achieve their own ends appears to me to be worthy of consideration.

This epidemic of claims of abuse of children caught in such situations, (family breakups) versus children, who suffer actual abuse , desensitizes the general public and governmental agencies and allows real and dangerous criminals to hide and operate with virtual impunity in our society. It is beyond Peter and the Wolf it is an ongoing crime against humanity. To falsely perpetrate something that I believe leads to what we are now facing in the LAUSD and SMMUSD and may have exacerbated, perpetuated and indeed by lack of action condoned events and actions that possibly has led to emotional; mental and even physical harm to any child is heinous.

I believe because of the actions as I have described many prior red flags have been ignored in many abuse situations and much suffering and harm and expense could have been avoided if a less commonplace attitude of children was the norm.

Indeed in the immediate situation with (C Cullen, B Winsick )either the allegations were scurrilous and a product of vitriol, and an attorney(PhD Psych) with who knows what motivation (7 Claims) and that these claims were worthy of public expense .Or these persons were aware the claims they were bringing were false and therefore not worthy of reporting to LAUISD/SMUSD or other parents.? The alternative is an admission of negligent lack of reasonable due diligence and surely a great lack of concern for the school both pupils and other teachers and parents has been flagrantly displayed in total disregard for the safety and welfare of minors. Whether this is or should be a concern for the bond holders of these persons I do not know. Mr. Glass, Glass family Law and former associate of (Kolodny & Anteau) One of the most respected family law firms in the United States (Mel Gibson Getty, etc.) has been investigated by the CA Bar already in this matter and while the complaint was not upheld a letter suggesting the possibility of civil redress was issued by them.

The APA also found he did no wrong apparently within their own ethics code.

The fact remains an Attorney/Psychologist and a Teacher and a Teacher/Coach surely have some duty to the community. The positions of trust and respect they are afforded should allow the general public a reasonableness within their expectation of propriety and protection of the innocent by such credentialed persons.

Perhaps the LAUSD/SMUSD could incorporate or suggest to the CA Bar a cooperative relationship of a professional nature that would allow this protection to be afforded our children as well as draft a code for the LAUSD/SMUSD’s own employees in such situations.

Certainly recent events could lead one to surmise that a better clarified way of maintaining the safety and welfare of our children, from both bonifide and false claims of abuse would be helpful. The harm that both real and imagined events can bring to families, as well as collateral persons and an institution such as children’s learning environment should be minimalized at all times.

Sincerely Yours,

Graham J Miller.

885 Avenue of the Americas

Penthouse 1A

New York. NY. 10001

20 A Father Under Attack January 6, 2014 at 4:44 pm

I had been in an abusive relationship for 4 years with a woman who committed herself to an institution, with a woman who was arrested for domestic battery against me, and with a woman who will stop at nothing to keep me from my infant daughter.
I had little faith in our relationship following her reverting back to abusive ways after I dropped my OP against her, with assertions that she would change. We got pregnant and no matter how abusive she continued to be, I stayed. However, I saved all abusive messages from her all along. At 6 months old, she kidnapped my daughter claiming she feared for her life. Since we weren’t married and there was no visitation, there was no kidnapping charges to be had. Since then it has been nearly 6 months since I have seen my daughter. She is bipolar with borderline/narcassistic personality disorder. I have been denied access to my infant daughter, and have been alleged everything under the sun to deny access to her. 5 months on and 15k later, more allegations surface with no probable cause. I am not being allowed to see her because I would not incriminate myself falsely. I knew no honor would be given if I did so I have relied on the courts.
Now I have two daughters from my previous marriage that love me dearly and I have access to whenever I wish. Now this woman…this obsessive alienator, claims I am terrible with my children and that I am a raging alcoholic with no proof besides her close friends attesting to it.
Daily I am harassed with my daughter being used as a pawn to the game. “F-ing sperm donor” “Youve been replaced” “You are not her father anymore”…this is what I get…that and more litigation keeping me from my daughter.
I have had good people that have deterred me from giving up because it seems so hopeless.

21 HOLLANDER January 10, 2014 at 7:44 pm

3-13-13 Child abuse by design

Dear Ken ,

It’s been more than a year since the letter of 2/12/12 and the apparent subsequent closing shortly thereafter of Glass Family Law. I understand he is now not promoting himself as uniquely blended in Psychology and Law but is at another firm doing probate work. Interestingly enough his resume at FMBK Law has claims of credentials I understand you believe are false based upon you direct written response from organizations Mr. Glass claims to be a member or associated with. Who does that reflect upon him or the diligence and propriety of the firm which now employs him?

It occurred to me that the complete contrast in our cases is almost deafening in the way it shouts hypocrisy, maleficent practices, and flat out perjuries within statements written under penalty of perjury and oral statements within hearings and written statements within submitted briefs screams of the manipulation of parents. This IMHO by attorney’s, the bench and minor’s councils within the family court system in CA at least. Given I was asked to waive my Fifth Amendment Rights in family court? And did so .The issuance of restraining orders on both of us within 3 weeks of my letter of the 12 of February under quote Justice Convey in your instance (“by the slimmest of margins”)one has to wonder at the coincidence…Right? Of course I was judged as having stalked by proxy because I hired a PI to prove my daughter was being housed with a felon (cultivating under a Federal Indictment),,, and the mother knew it.

Indeed in your instance you were falsely accused of molestation by the mother of your son seven ( 7) times and then of stalking (8th)when the child was too old to falsely accuse the father of abuse .I note your minors council never interviewed your child even though Sammy was ten (10) . In your case no abuse took place yet you were put on monitored visitation and visitation reduced to police station pick-ups permanently. It would seem logical Ken that at some time you become a safe parent. When is that after your four (4th) parenting class? Or after the third 3rd interview with the District Attorney’s Office. How about after the 8th sheriff or 13th DCFS investigations. What grade gives you a pass? Or is it like our friend who ponied up a Million dollars.
In my case I alleged that the mother was negligent or deliberately sub parenting in a manner as was provocative .Lj was taken to UCLA med center at three & half (3 ½) .and on morphine and intravenous feeding for 6 weeks after the neighbors call the police because they could hear her screaming. I had previously stated the mother did not have the skills or empathy and may have been suffering some mental distress
.
Then two (2) years later numerous blood noses (daddy don’t put sunscreen on …its very sore) and Minors counsel accused me of overreacting etc. Yet my daughter now is showing a scar across her nose as her face has grown. Also when the symptoms that caused the first hospitalization reoccurred I took Lj to the Doctor without custodial privileges and was again accused of being alarmist yet the child’s diet was immediately changed by the mother and things improved.
Not forgetting being accused of 10K in support arrears that the judge threw out as falsified spreadsheet CSSD said I never owed anything. As well as the LCSW saying the Mothers accusation I yelled at our daughter and threw a phone at her was a work of fiction. Perhaps that is why we have a letter from the Bar suggesting we pursue “civil action”.

Given all this I am the one who is separated and monitored.
My point is you are not a molester as the DA stated yet you are punished and to the opposite I can prove the mother has been ,may still be or is a least using sub care of my child in a provocative manner where my child may be suffering yet I am punished,. Quote (LCFS,,‘ The Mother is not currently negligent”)
Really?
Finally we have our friend who only after paying a million dollars was taken of monitoring, all accusations and interference stopped and can see his children when he wants.

Here is the situation Given the violence in society killings in families, how much damage has been done to children and women, mothers Fathers parents and extended family by the propagation of this kind of duplicitous behavior within what seems to be a culture of deceit built around self-aggrandizing and financial self-serving that in fact amounts to fiscal abuse of children. What training skills and so on are lost in funneling the parent’s income to third party leeches using false or manipulated circumstances to serve their own interests?
In my case I spent more than $ 47,072 seeing my daughter for twelve ( 12) hours each month for the last year.
I kept my second residence in California, (rent) paid child support, Airfare from NY once a month air fare for a weekend from oversees and monitor costs including the monitors meals , go-cart rides, Taxis/transportation , lunches, entertainment, getting around, clothes, toys, books & games and adventures that I as her father are able to spend upon the daughter that I have raised!
What type of enhanced opportunities could a different approach have made?

If fathers are the enemy what will mothers become once a more robotic agenda is achieved .They will be phased out as well. Women should consider the short amount of time science is giving them to make the correct adjustments to this situation and police their own ranks from peers lawyers and malevolent individuals who care little for children, and will eventually throw mothers to the wayside in preference of the state. I mean do little girls really need to be born with a womb anymore?

The societal cost of the emotional and mental anguish to children and subsequent family killings from person caught up in this situations is surely not worth the salaries of a the firms and government agencies who benefit from this culture…>All mothers, children and Fathers are at risk and more so daily as those uneducated to the manner they will be manipulated and have their conflict orchestrated to the fiscal advantage of others.

My being asked to waive my 5th in family court because a stated somebody was a dead man walking, professionally speaking .It would seem I know what I’m doing as David J. Glass Ph.D. is now hobbled from abusing any more families and a judge who asks me if I wished merry Christmas to a Jewish Lawyer as a hateful gesture seems to be setting me up for something, especially since you had received notices mailed to your residence disclosing that David Glass would be on vacation during the “Christmas holidays”.
Yet you Ken are a longtime Jewish friend and my father spent weeks in a cattle car on his way to Stalag IVIII in Poland.
Was it not the Nazis who first separated children from parents?

And then when I request the transcript from that hearing, I pay for it I and then get not the original but a copy and my money order is handed back to me and no one will say who was given the original?
Lj says to me at age of 6 when I tell her mom loves her and will always be in her life
She state’s to me …“She’s going to live a lot; she’s never going to die?”

What is this child going to hold her mother responsible for and by what means will she do so?
The enabling of conflict by those who seek to gain financially is simply evil and no different from an arms dealer who supplies both sides .The killing of life be it on an emotional ,intellectual, financial, mental, spiritual and /a or physical level is a death and no different from actually using a mechanical device. Too knowingly do so to children whose spirit is pure is inherently foul.

To surmise IMHO the individuals and associated firms in our cases are only the tip of the iceberg.

Michael J. Kretzmer. David J.Glass Ph.d, Lori A. Darakjian, Elise Greenberg of Carlson & Greenberg, Psychologist Angus Strachan Ph.d of Lund & Strachan ,FMBK Law , Kolodny & Anteau represent a blight upon what was once a noble profession .

Please get back to me with your thoughts, I am thinking about copying this letter and the letter of 2-12-2012 to the California Attorney General.
Thanks
Graham.
Ps I’ll be in LA for visitation. It snowed in NY this week.

22 HOLLANDER January 13, 2014 at 12:16 pm

Getting divorced/seperated?
Odds R you will face false allegations
(sexual)
Google : FMBK ANTEAU (Hundreds of results)
Present the 2-12-12 letter & other documents to Law Enforcement, DCFS Agents,
Child Abuse Detectives, School Officials, District Attorneys Office, Judges & the Public

PROTECT YOURSELF , LOVED ONES & OTHERS from CHILD ABUSE by DESIGN

23 The Mom called She January 16, 2014 at 6:09 am

It has been 5 yrs. since my horrific journey started.
The day I told him no more.
I never foresaw how bad things would get,that he could or would separate us.
But it’s done. I have tried everything, done everything possible.
I keep coming back here because I think this is the one place I can say that, be understood, and not have to explain why I didn’t try “whatever you have to suggest”.
I’ve tried it all.
If you have a parent..totally intent on destroying your relationship with your children….there is NOTHING you can do to stop it.
I’m sad on how things are for them. They deserve to know they have a mother that loves them.
Their lives are forever changed.
That’s the hard part.
After my son graduates in June(Because I will not miss that), as I didn’t miss my daughter’s, I will be going to court to hopefully sever any committment to my ex regarding our children.
I would literally pay anything to have a relationship with my children, but that is gone.
At some point..you have to be realistic. I personally need separation on every level from their father. I was always worried on what I would do, and how they would see it. But I realize now…it doesn’t matter…whatever I do will be twisted.
My point is…never blame youself…don’t get upset with friends and family that don’t understand (they have NO idea) as much as they love you.
And move forward with what you have to, to keep yourself strong.
They may come back :)
And if not, every human being deserves a happy life :)

24 Tricia March 24, 2014 at 9:44 am

Hello,
My name is Tricia I believe I am a victim of p a s, I am a very proud mother of an 12 year old daughter, I have been with my husband for 21 years, married 17. He Has been physical and emotional abusive with me from way beyond I can remember, I was. A stay at home mom for about 9 years, I went back to work about 3 years ago after my husband lost his job, and his self employment wasnt supporting the family, reason he was self employed he was a daily marijuana user and would not be able to pass a drug test.. I never had a life outside of the home meaning I didn’t socialize with friends etc.. My mother had mental issues about 5 years ago.. He had me choose between him and my daughter or my family.. I chose him and my daughter, but the turmoil and fighting would still be overwhelming, fights infront of my daughter where weekly occurrences even daily, with fits of rage breaking things and even physical at times, he has waken her out of sleep to take her to his parents. On several occasions.. After I started working things had started to get worse, I was not home 24/7 I was enjoying getting out and having a life outside of home.. I started to feel good about myself, about 2 years ago I lost weight, started tanning, which made him jealous, but I still only went to work.. But started getting insanely jealous accusing me of affairs, secrets etc.. He started telling my daughter 10 year old i was a slut that I had a boyfriend and i ruined the marraige. Then our fiances were a mess because of him not having steady work.. He would tell my daughter that I blew his money, I’m worthless etc.. I started to hate him.. But stayed because I was scared, and didnt want to hurt my daughter, I started working nights while he worked daylight hours.. So she became his confidant, his buddy, I left for 2 weeks in 2012, and stayed at my freind Kim’s, she has an austic son.. Which they have been to my home several times.. He begged me to come home he would change.. From that day on kim was no good and My daughter suddenly became afraid of her autistic son.. She started shunning out even or neighbors daughters which they are like sisters.. Seems like everyone we did things with at one time.. She wanted no parts of.. Then he would flip out if I would talk on the phone with kim and Michel, we went to marraige counseling, she labeled him as a control freak.. Asked y I stayed.. Same reason my daughter loves her dad.. But then she started absorbing his hatred towards me, I would ask her to clean her room or pick up after herself and he would yell at me for barking orders at her.. I then started to realize this is not right, no respect from either.. She started calling texting her dad in the mornings and tell him I wouldn’t get up with her or she packed her own lunch, he would say that I am a bad mom and she agreed, he would say things like ur daughter even hates you.. I said that she is mimicking his behavior.. My Gosh it had gotten to the point I couldn’t even talk when they were watching tv I had to ask if I could talk.. She put passwords on her iPod, phone, ipad.. I had lost control and total respect.. I asked her if she hated me and she wouldn’t answer.. I cried she showed no emotion.. I asked for a divorce i felt like i was in prison and that I had to so I can have my relationship back with my daughter.. I said to make as easy,, shared custody.. I came home from work Friday 3/7 to an empty house and no daughter.. He trashed the home took my daughter everything that would make her comfortable to come back, he said that he did it because I am a bad mom.. I have never so much as raise my voice to her. When i tried to do 1 on 1 things i would get in trouble, weather it be taking her to lunch or buying her a lipgloss there was hell to pay.. but he could do and buy her anything.. She says she wants to live with him, he says he has to force her to call me and see me.. I believe he has her so brainwashed. On the few visits I had she has cried and says she misses me but once shes back shes cold again.. But if he’s there observing she’s like a robot and won’t even make eye contact with me.. and she had been sleeping on the couch the last few months with him., and if we went anywhere together they would walk ahead of me holding hands.. His parents helped him move everything out says looking out my daughter what’s best for her.. They are staying at his parents.. He filed fir divorce and sole custody.. I’m not a bad mom for not walking my daughter to school ( school is block and a half) from our home, or packing her a lunch. Sorry this is so long, it’s 5 am couldn’t sleep I found your site.. Please help point me in the right direction before I loose my mind and my daughter.. She has become even colder with me on the few visits I’ve had with her..
Tricia

25 Charlie Hilliard May 12, 2014 at 3:09 am

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKMR2YUqXEk&feature=autoshare

As a Grama, and alienated from ,y 2 grand children like the father, I was inspired to do this video from seeing Jason Patrick’s story. Not only is my son a classic example of parential alienation, one of his children, his son, is critically ill with kidney failure. He’s 3 1/2 years old, had his first kidney removed, his second is now failing, and the father is BLOCKED by the mother on seeing him, phoning him, all against every court order on file. Does anyone care ?

26 The Mom called She..Rene' July 9, 2014 at 12:22 pm

I appreciate your site..but I think at this point, you should create an area for parents who have fought this and lost…

27 The Mom called She..Rene' July 9, 2014 at 12:32 pm

Every single day is a struggle…friends and family love you..but will never 100% understand..it would be awesome to speak to people who know..that you did do everything..that you did try that..and, if this was not as bad as we said…there would not be people like us…there is nowhere to go…

28 Ted August 18, 2014 at 4:01 pm

HELP!

The world is not fair. The system is not fair. That’s the bottom line. But, with that being said, would you like to hear my story and could you helpt me? Please!

I shamed myself to my family and friends. But did it give the court the right to take my child away from me?

Married to another police officer in Mar 2005 and had one daughter, Reese, born in July 2007.

I was a public figure, a police officer from 1998 to 2009. I quit because i was making obscene calls to another female police officer. She turned me in and i quit. Also, my wife at that time was a police officer in the same department. So i shamed her as well.

Wife and i divorced in March 2010 for various reasons, partially because of the obscene phone calls. We had a regular parenting custody schedule, essentially 50/50.

In Jan 2011 was arrested and charged with 2 state counts of Sexual Misconduct, 2nd degree. This was in essence indecent exposure. This was in the same city i was a police officer in. So again, shamed and embarrassed my family and friends. This should have been a municipal charge, but my ex wife, a police detective now, got them to make it 2 state charges.

My ex wife in Feb 2011 filed for sole legal and physical custody with her new attorney, a former prosecutor.

In July 2011, was put on probation for this for 2 years.

During all this time, I had my daughter on normal visits and a regular parenting plan. Everything was normal with my daughter, no allegations of anything.

In Nov 2012 went to family court. After 2.5 years of having my daughter on normal regularly scheduled visits, the judge completely took her out of my life. Everything but one hour of supervised visit per day. Nothing else. No phone calls. No holidays. No summers. No extra curricular activities. Nothing.

Why? I would be happy to show you and documents you would like to read. Basically the judge said based on “expert” testimony by a psychologist, in the future i may pose a mental harm to her IF she found out what i did.

Jan 2013 filed an appeal.

In July 2013, successfully completed probation and received and Suspended Imposition of Sentence (SIS) and completely off my record.

Dec 2013 lost appeal. Be happy to let you read the courts reasoning.

Feb 2014 hired new attorney. Still trying to get a modification. New attorney referred me for another psychological exam.

Feb 2014 to June 2014. Saw new psychologist. Had several other psychological exams and he concluded that the first psychologist was incorrect and interpreted the results wrong. Said in his written report the visits with my daughter should be returned to normal visitation.

July 2014, my current girlfriend via text tried to communicate with my ex wife. Ex wife told her to quit. She did try a couple of other times and ex wife now had the city prosecutor send a letter to her threatening to file charges. Again, she used her police powers to run her license plate and trace her phone number. Can the common citizen check another persons license plate or trace a phone number? No. But my ex wife can. Why? She is above the law. After all, she is a police officer.

Aug 2014. To date, spend $40,000 and still haven’t gotten any closer to getting my daughter.

Did i mess up and have to lay in my bed that i made? Yes. Do i deserve to lose my child over something that had nothing to do with a child? No.

What are the injustices:

1. Ex wife and police department used their position of power and authority to conduct this investigation to get sole custody of my daughter to her. Should read the case file….it is unbelievable. The police department followed me, my family, put cameras outside my apartment, made anonymous calls to my cell phone. All documented in the police file.

2. The Guardian Ad Litem was the judges former law clerk for years. He made numerous lies that are documented. One in that he said he asked for access to my home to look at the residence. He never did. A lie. My previous attorney vouched for this.

3. I had totally incompetent counsel. That’s another story.

4. The judge lied in her judgment. Said i changed my phone number numerous times. Never did, one time. She said i moved numerous times. Never did, one time. Said i lied on the stand numerous times. Never did. The judge said i bought jewelry during the modification. I did not.

This judge had no accountability. She let more heresay in the courtroom then can be imagined. She did whatever she wanted and said whatever she wanted in the judgment without any accountability for her actions. In fact, after this case she retired.

This judge LIED in her judgment. But no one seems to care. How does this injustice occur? How is she allowed to get away with it with no recourse for the common man/woman? She said whatever she wanted without any evidence. How does this happen?

5. I did take the 5th Amendment several times under questioning. Why? My previous attorney told me to. Again, incompetent counsel.

6. Ex wife’s attorney wanted my probation records. I denied them to him. Why? My probation officer told me to. Probation officer was subpoenaed to court but never showed up. And no one from that office did either. So judge said I must be covering up something. But i wasn’t.

7. My ex wife’s attorney is a former prosecutor. He accessed all records from the criminal case and basically turned this family court case that about a little girl into a criminal trial. Why? To make me look bad and he succeeded.

8. At the appeals court hearing, the judges made numerous remarks that were never introduced as evidence in the trial court. In other words, they read heresay in the judgment. But this was all it was, heresay. No evidence presented in court.

9. The “expert” psychologist who testified LIED. Several times. Made allegations with no evidence to back it up.

I can go on and on.

Did i screw up big time? Yes. Did i get what i deserved? Yes. Did i deserve or any parent deserve to lose complete custody of their child? No.

This was a complete travesty and abuse of the judicial system.

Ted
816-349-4689

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