child custody

If you’re involved in a child custody case involving parental alienation or parental alienation syndrome this post could be very important to you.

Any attorney that’s been involved in a high conflict divorce involving children will be fully aware of the dynamic of PA even if they’ve never heard of the actual term. Although many judges are reluctant to accept parental alienation as a legal term, every experienced attorney & judge has seen a vicious ex-spouse attempt to destroy the relationship of a targeted parent with their children.

This is where an outside consultant can be very beneficial. They can help to protect you and your children in a variety of ways. To begin with they are usually quite current with case precedence on this topic. They’ve also seen what works best and just as importantly, what is totally ineffective in these types of cases. In addition they can often provide resources that your attorney will need to prove your case in court.

Please remember though that even with the help of a skilled & educated professional there are no guarantees of success in the courtroom. Judges are people. Like everyone else, there are good judges and bad judges. And unfortunately they can do just about anything they want to in their courtroom. Some of you already know exactly what I’m talking about. But that doesn’t negate the fact that you should do everything possible to obtain a favorable outcome for you and your children.

At first glance some of you will look at this as an additional expense. Although that could end up being the case, often times exactly the opposite is true. Many times a skilled consultant is able to uncover the truth much faster than your attorney could by themselves. In those cases it could actually save you a great deal in legal fees because there will be less litigation to prove what is happening and to remedy the situation.

Parental alienation is a horrible form of child abuse. Every effort should be made to prevent it from happening at all. When that’s not possible, it needs to be stopped from progressing to the point that children lose a loving parent. You will need every tool and resource available to help you in this battle with parental alienation. The key is to be proactive instead of reactionary. If you wait until you feel like your losing you’ve probably already lost…

Here is an article from one of the foremost authorities in this field. His name is Joseph Goldberg. Here is his perspective on the value of a consultant in these types of cases:

Parental Alienation and Children Exhibiting Visitation Refusal Behavior 

 

Rick Nischalke
Keeping Families Connected

Father’s Day not a day of celebration for some

by Rick Nischalke on June 22, 2010

For many of you Father’s Day was an incredibly sad day.  On a day when you are supposed to be celebrated you were ignored or at worse maligned. It is not a day in which you celebrate fatherhood but one which has become a reminder of injustices in the family court system and the evil that seems to be taking over.

I have witnessed the pain that Rick goes through on Father’s Day for the last 11 years.  He wakes up with an extremely heavy heart and a sadness that just won’t go away.  We go to church where fathers are acknowledged and honored, then usually do something special to celebrate what an awesome father he is.  But without his boys in his life the celebrations are often empty and have very little meaning.  At times he wishes the day would just disappear off the calendar.  The sad reality is that Rick is not the only one who feels this way.

Here’s what a few of my Facebook  friends posted on Father’s Day.

“It had been a harsh Father’s Day for me & many daddys deprived of our children by Family Courts. We “target parents” are often hit so badly that we often feel like giving up…”

“hard to focus on much today….”

“I am a father. Not a deadbeat, not a coward, not a man that runs away from being a father, or a deserter of my own flesh and blood. Not a sperm donor or a court appointed ATM, but a Father in the purest form of the word.”

If you have not been able to be apart of your child’s life this Father’s Day because of Parental Alienation we are sorry and want to wish you the best. We know and understand your pain and we are standing with you on this journey.  God Bless You — Barb