Keeping Families Connected
Websites that express your love when you can't be there!
"I loved your movie clip about your sons. I think that every judge, lawyer, minister, whoever gives advice to parents who are splitting up, should be required to watch that clip before they take the first step in divorce, and continue to watch it on a weekly basis during and after the divorce. Maybe it will sink in that it is the parents divorcing not the kids. Sorry to hear about your loss, it is the greatest loss I can imagine. Hope you can hook up with your kids again one day. Keep putting things like that on the internet and I'm sure your kids will find it and know how much you love them. My daughter is divorced and raising her kids on her own, but even though the father isn't perfect he is still in their lives."
B. Dupont, Illinois
This site exists to help children that have been torn from their families through "Parental Alienation" and to help those that have been separated from the children that they love.
We design, host and update personalized websites, that allow you to share your love with children that you are unable to communicate with any other way.
If you are reading these words, you are probably experiencing the indescribable pain of being alienated or torn apart from children that you love deeply. I am so sorry that this has happened in your life, and especially your children's (or grandchildren's) life. Even as I write this, I wish that I could reach out and comfort each one of you.
I am a real father that has been separated from my sons since February of 1999. My boys were ages 7 and 4 at that time. In researching ways that I might help my sons after we were separated, I read Dr. Richard Warshak's book "Divorce Poison". On page 286 he suggests putting up a website for your children. In 2004 I established a website in their honor exclusively for them. Following this advice has proved to be both rewarding and healing for me in many ways. I can only imagine the healing and comfort it will bring to my sons.
My wife and I are passionate about helping you, and the children that mean so much to you, in the midst of these extreme circumstances in YOUR life.
If I have described you and your situation in the lines above, no explanation is necessary of how devastating and life-changing losing a relationship with a child you love can be. If you have not experienced being separated from children you love, then no explanation could even come close to describing the utter hopelessness and pain that children and parents who are separated from each other go through.
You may have lost a child after a divorce when your ex-spouse relocated to another state or country with your children (with or without the court's permission). You may have legitimately neglected or placed your children in danger, at a point in time when your life was a mess, but still wish to express your love for your children. You may also have an ex-spouse that has maliciously alienated your children from you in an attempt to attack you and make themselves look better to those around them, especially the children.
Depending on your circumstances, you are probably hurt, confused and angry. You may also be disillusioned with an ex-spouse (or possibly your son or daughter's ex-spouse) that has intentionally and aggressively embarked on a campaign to remove you completely from your children's lives. You probably never even conceived that someone could be so vicious.
It is much easier for the alienating parent to convince the children that they are the "good parent" and you are the "bad", if you aren't around to let your life and love show your children who you really are…
Grandparents are especially vulnerable to these attacks because the alienating parent can't afford to allow anyone that might present the other parent in a positive light in the children's lives.
Although Parental Alienation is not the only cause of separation from children we love, it is by far the single greatest contributor to those circumstances. Some of you may not even be familiar with the term "parental alienation", or the tactics used to achieve such an abusive goal. If you would like more information on parental alienation we have listed books and websites on our resources page dealing with that issue.
"Parents/guardians using parental alienation tactics to hurt the other 'target' parent have been compared to cult leaders. These people put their hatred, anger and motives before their own child's emotional and mental health. In effect, they treat their children as nothing more than possessions, and a tool to hurt the 'target' parent."
By now many of you are painfully aware (and shocked by the fact) that the Family Court System is the absolute greatest and most powerful "tool" used by one parent to alienate and separate the other parent from their children after a divorce. I have personally experienced and witnessed countless families being torn apart by the courts.
It appears to me that quite often our court system is biased, unaccountable and out of control. Many judges seem to disregard the very laws they have sworn to uphold, in order to promote their personal bias, or to crush anyone that would dare to question their authority or judgment as it pertains to our children.
That combined with an army of unscrupulous, bottom-feeder attorneys that thrive on the "gold mine of revenue" generated from outrageous and destructive litigation, provides a very effective tool for parents and judges that are willing to put their own interests above the children. (I am NOT saying that all attorneys and judges fall into this category, I just happen to have met quite a few.)
The parents, judges and attorneys that engage in these tactics have absolutely no regard for the children they decimate by Parental Alienation. Yet interestingly enough, each of them hide behind the rhetoric of doing what is "in the best interest of the children".
In my opinion Parental Alienation is CHILD ABUSE! I don't care how you justify or rationalize it. Intentionally and maliciously doing everything you can to destroy a child's relationship and bond with their other parent is nothing short of criminal. And I don't care if you are a parent, judge or attorney, you should be held accountable!
If I seem passionate about this subject, it's because I am. If you take the time to read our story you will understand. It's very probable that your own story is explanation enough.
Site Benefits
- Convey your love and commitment to your children.
- Share your thoughts and feelings about your situation.
- Post information about important events in your life and theirs.
- Wish them Happy Birthday, send Christmas or other holiday greetings etc.
- Share you thoughts, feelings and beliefs about life, faith, choosing friends, dating and marriage etc.
- If your ex-spouse has told your children that you don't really care about them, or that you voluntarily walked away from them and it isn't true, then you will have verifiable proof of your efforts to stay in contact with them until they find or contact you.
- If your ex-spouse continuously tells everyone what a terrible person you are, and you don't attack them when you have the opportunity, eventually your children will notice. If they don't, someone else in their life (a girlfriend, boyfriend, coach or teacher might bring this to their attention).
- If you build this site for them today and don't see them until several years from now, they will have proof that they were always in your heart and prayers even though you couldn't be with them.
- This is a personal site. We will design it with you and for you. There will be no pop-up ads. And you will get to choose your own domain name.
- In addition to the obvious blessing your children will receive when they find this website, you will receive healing each time you invest in this labor of love for them. It had that effect on me.
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Regardless of the reason you arrived at this site I want to assure you of several things:
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Please watch this video and see why Parental Alienation is the ultimate hate crime.
"This is a wonderful resource to convey your love to children that have been removed from your life."
"The intent of that site was to share my love and life with them, until a time in the future when they were strong and wise enough to reach out to me on their own. This is not theory for me, or just an idea to help people in your situation. To this day, I continue to wait for their joyful return …"
We put our site up live in August of 2004. According to my ex-wife, my sons found the site one year later in June of 2005. Although my ex-wife expressed her "extreme displeasure" at this discovery, it comforted me greatly to know that the boys had discovered their site.
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The number of families experiencing "Parental Alienation" has become a world-wide epidemic. We will be sending out a monthly newsletter apprising you of any changes in the current family laws in the US and around the world.
- "Keeping Families Connected is committed to design a loving, caring, nurturing atmosphere for your children".
- We will work together with you to create a personal website that expresses your love and commitment to your children (or grandchildren).
- We will help, encourage and guide you with tools, resources and real life examples of how to best accomplish this goal for your specific situation.
- We have created several different versions of websites that you can choose from.
- We will continuously update your site by downloading the documents, letters and pictures that you provide us with on an ongoing basis.
- We will also provide you with resources to deal with personal issues that are common to being separated from your children such as: grief, anger, etc. (It is our strong belief that even if you can't change "the system", your ex-spouse or your circumstances, you CAN and SHOULD continue to work on you. I think you would agree, your children deserve to have you be best parent you can be)
- If your children have been abducted, this is a great way for them to find you from anywhere in the world. All they'll need to do in most cases is just "Google" your name or theirs to find your site.
- One of the most important things we will offer you, is protection from yourself and your emotions as you develop this site. Their site is all about them, their value, your life together, your never-ending love and commitment to them and your ongoing life. You am also able to reach out to them with your perspective about life, what happened to cause this situation, advice and suggested reading material that you would share if you were together.
You may want to read that last statement one more time. Ask yourself the following questions, and see if you answer yes to any of them:
- Have others lied about you or misrepresented you to your children?
- Are you angry with someone that has caused or contributed to this situation?
- Are you frustrated with the court system or a judge?
- Do you feel like "setting the record straight" and striking back at those that have hurt you and your children?
- Does any of this make you angry?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you definitely need our help to keep that understandable and appropriate anger from seeping out to your children.
We will not allow ANY parent-bashing on any of our sites period. No exceptions. This is NOT a forum to express your anger and frustration, it is a site to express your love, concern and commitment to your children.
You must not give in to anger and bitterness even if someone has committed the great evil of "PARENTAL ALIENATION" against both you and your children! If we allow people to retaliate from these websites, we become no better than the original perpetrators themselves!
Having said that, we do believe in conveying "age appropriate" truth to children about what has REALLY transpired in cases of parental alienation and abuse by the courts. As long as it is done in the spirit of helping your children gain understanding and comprehension, and not just to destroy their relationship with their other parent. (If you would like to see an example of how this can be done please go to the Website Samples and look at design style #1. Read some of the letters I have written to my sons. These are actual letters posted on my personal website for my sons.)
If you would like to work together with us to preserve your family and express your love to your children please click the Pricing & Services tab and follow the instructions to secure your site now.
If you would like to see samples of available sites please click on the Sample Web Pages tab.
If you would like to see my personal website for my own sons please go to: www.nischalke.com
(To return to this site, click on the "Keeping Families Connected" link at the bottom of the Home page of our son's website. You may want to save this site to favorites in case you get interrupted during your visit to our other site.)
If you want more information about Parental Alienation, go to our Resource Section.
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